The Secret Is Wags

Lately, I’ve had to turn this into a mantra:  “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.  Focus on the feeling.”

When you’re finding reasons to feel good or looking for ways to feel like you already have what you want, either by using track changes or other visualizing methods, it’s ever so tempting to look for results.

We all love law of attraction results.  We love to hear those stories about how someone thought about something incredible and got it.  And of course, we all love to experience those results.

Almost daily, I remind myself that I manifested my husband.  I like remembering that I have the ability to deliberately flow vibrational energy toward a specific result and have the result appear in my life.

I’m discovering, however, because of a spate of unpleasant events recently, that too much focus on results can knock you off the alignment track.  (more…)

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I’ve visualized and visualized and visualized, and do you know of the million and one things I’ve visualized how many have actually happened in my life?  Oh, let’s see, maybe 20 or 30.

I used to teach visualization to writers in writing workshops.  I truly thought it would help writers achieve success.

And I wasn’t totally wrong about that.

Visualization can have great results.

BUT it can also make things worse.

A couple years ago, after I read The Secret and dove back into all my Abraham-Hicks books and tapes, I started visualizing like a mad woman.  I set aside an hour a day to visualize.  I also created a massive “Manifestation Board.”  I’m sure you’ve heard of these; it’s a more physical form of visualization.  You put pictures of things you want up on a bulletin board.

Ours was in our exercise room.  Since I spent at least an hour a day in there, doing physical action without a whole lot of mental requirement to it, I figured it made sense to have a wall full inspirational images to stare at.  Pictures of ocean view homes, huge checks, thin people, big RVs, beautiful vacation destinations, and clippings about lottery winners plastered the wall.  My life as I wanted it to be.

Two years after I put the pictures up, I took them all down and put them away.  I was disgusted with them.  Not a single thing from that wall had manifested in my life.

I stopped visualizing an hour a day too.  Nothing I’d visualized had manifested either.  In fact, I’d manifested the OPPOSITE of what I’d been focusing on.

Why?

This baffled me for a long time.  But I think I know the answer.

Visualization—either in the mind or on a board—isn’t the great law of attraction tool all the law of attraction coaches and authors and teachers say it is.

It CAN be.  But only if you do it right.

I wasn’t doing it right.

Most people aren’t.

What was I doing wrong?

I was doing the “Push Up Version” of visualization.

Push Up Visualization

Say hi to Ducky.

In the above picture, Ducky wants to manifest her dinner.  I’ve trained Ducky to either “sit” and “stay” or lie “down” and “stay” before she gets to eat.  I put her food in her feeding station, give her the command to sit or lie down, and she is to wait until I say, “Okay,” before she dives into her food.

Before I took the picture, I gave Ducky, the “down” command.  Notice that she’s not in a very impressive down.  It’s a little tough to tell from the picture’s angle, but she’s actually in a push up position. She’s holding her upper body about two inches off the ground.  She’s not in full down.  When she does this, I don’t release her to her food.

I say to her a second time, “down” and usually add “all the way down.” She squeaks (I think she’s part mouse), and squirms lower to the floor.  THEN I say “Okay,” and she “manifests” her food.

The push up position Ducky gets into is a perfect illustration of what we do when we mess up visualization.  It shows how we aren’t FULLY in the visualization.

To be fully in a visualization, you can’t look at an imagined scene or a picture from outside of the scene or the picture.  In other words, you can’t look at it from a place of I’m over here having what I currently have, but I WANT this thing I’m thinking of or what’s in this picture on my wall.

I talked about the post, By Jove.  We can’t WANT something and get it.  We have to feel like we have it in order to get it.

All the visualization I did was Push Up Visualization.  It was half-done.  I thought about doing the things I wanted to do, and I looked at pictures of what I wanted to do but I never got to the point where I truly felt like I already had done and had become what I wanted to do and be.  I never did All The Way Down Visualization.

And how do you do that?

All The Way Down Visualization

I’m not a whiz at All The Way Down Visualization yet, so bear with me.  I’ve been playing with it over the last few days.  The best way I can describe this form of visualization, a form that I’m hypothesizing may be what we need, is this way:  It’s not about seeing yourself in a specific situation that you want, it’s about seeing yourself doing something that in the moment you’re visualizing it makes you feel good.

An example.  I have spent hours visualizing house hunting for our ocean view home in Oregon.  Most of the time I visualized doing this, I wasn’t feeling all that great.  Why?  Because I was acutely aware that I wasn’t in Oregon and had no real plans to house hunt for my ocean view home. I wasn’t fully in the visualization.  Even when I got myself into a relaxed state of mind, some part of me was aware that I was doing this visualization because I WANTED something.  Think about it.  Would I set aside an hour to visualize something I already had?

I don’t visualize Springer spaniels.  I already have one.  I don’t visualize meeting a man.  I have a husband I love and who loves me.  The very act of visualization has inherent in it the lack of that which we visualize.

I had the same feelings when I looked at the manifestation board.  When I looked at the pictures, I was far more aware that I didn’t have these things than I was of any good feelings about having them.

I think the main problem I had with visualization and that you may be having too is that the visualization itself is actually activating the awareness that we don’t have what we want.  It’s not putting us IN alignment with what we want.  It’s getting us OUT of alignment of what we want.

Visualization can be kind of like a prescription drug.  It can help, but it can also do a whole lot of hurt if it’s not used correctly.

I think all the visualizing I did, because it was Push Up Visualization, made my situation worse.

I do think that All The Way Down visualization could be effective, but I’ll be honest.  I don’t think I’m that good at it.

So what to do?  Do I keep attempting to visualize properly or not?

Today, the law of attraction brought me an answer to this question.  It brought me a memory of a process I did years ago that HAD a powerful impact on my life.  I’d forgotten all about it.

I’ll share that process with you tomorrow.

In the meantime, think about your visualization.  Are you doing Push Up Visualization or All The Way Down Visualization?

What has your experience with this been?

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