When a whole lot of yucky things are going on in your life and you’ve sunk to the bottom of the emotional scale and you know you’re out of alignment with what you want, what can you do to feel better right this minute?

Abraham-Hicks teaches many processes that can help improve your emotional set point and thus your alignment, but sometimes things can get so overwhelming that it’s tough to summon up the oomph to do any of the processes.  Sometimes, visualizing and journaling and whatever else is just too much trouble.  And remember, if it doesn’t feel good, it’s not helping.

So what can you do when you feel this bad?

You can reach for thoughts that help you feel a little better than what you feel now, thereby climbing the emotional scale, going from fear to anger to blame to doubt, for instance.  But sometimes that can seem too complicated too.

Me?  I like the easy way.

In the last few weeks, my “what is” circumstances have included some pretty lousy events.  If I told you the details of those events, you would understand if I also told you I was feeling lousy.

But not only am I not going to tell you the details, I also don’t feel lousy.

I admit I did wallow a bit last week, but I feel good now.

Why?

This quote from Mike Dooley’s Notes From The Universe explains my shift:

“Isn’t it rather mind-numbing that for everyone, always and forever, they have 10,000 more things to be thrilled about, than not?”

Think about that.  Imagine the power of going through your day thinking about the 10,000 things that are right instead of the two or three or even 100 that are wrong.  Imagine focusing on the glory of a all the clovers in the field instead of worrying about one snake in the grass.

When I saw this quote, I remembered Abraham-Hicks’ statement that appreciation is one of the most powerful positive vibrational frequencies that there is.  Doesn’t it stand to reason that if you go around looking for the 10,000 things that are right, the law of attraction will bring you more and more things that are right?

Instead of trying to find beliefs and feelings that seemed out of my reach, trying to take on an identity of what I want to be, one that just doesn’t seem to fit me right now, I decided to simplify.  I began to look for as many things as I could find that are right in my world.

You know the game “I Spy?” Kids love it.  “I spy with my little blue eye something red,” one player says, and the other players try to guess what it is.

I’ve been playing a new version of the game:  “I spy something right.”

Something “right” is something that feels good, something to appreciate.

And guess what?  It only took spying a couple dozen “right” things for me to start feeling better.

I thought it would be fun if we could play this game together.  What do you think about coming together to gather 10,000 (or more) “right” things here in this post?

Can you imagine the woo hoo vibrational frequency we can create by combining our focus and pointing it at as many good things as we can think of?

I’ll get us started.

I Spy With My Little Blue Eye Something RIGHT

I spy:

1.    My dog, Ducky’s enthusiasm

2.    My husband, Tim’s love for me

3.    Ocean breezes

4.    A solid roof over my head

5.    A comfortable sofa

6.    Nectarines ripening on my kitchen counter

7.    The kitchen counter

8.    Having a nice deep sink with a garbage disposal

9.    My laptop

10. WordPress, which makes it easy to blog

11. The coming of fall

12. The 1957 wheat penny Tim found, which so delighted him

13. The training collar my parents bought for Ducky

14. My parents willingness to help us out as much as they can

15. The gift certificate that my friend gave us that allowed Tim and I to go out to eat on his birthday

16. The fact that I can breathe

17. The fact that I can smell (as in sniff things not as in having body odor)

18. The fact hear

19. The fact that I can taste things like pizza and red wine and avocadoes

20. Pizza, wine and avocados

21. The fact that I can feel textures like Ducky’s soft fur

22. Ducky’s soft fur

23. The quiet in my neighborhood

24. The beach I get to let Ducky run around on

25. The sound of the surf

26. The sound of the breeze rustling trees in my backyard

27. The trees in my backyard

28. Every dollar and cent I have in the bank

29. Every dollar and cent that is on its way to me

30. My ability to write

31. My ability to type

32. Tim’s usual great mood

33. A working alarm clock (the digital kind)

34. A fun alarm clock (the Ducky kind)

35. Flannel sheets

36. Having a comfy bed to sleep in

37. Fans that cool the room

38. Living in a place where fans are rarely needed

39. The infinite variations of the color green in my backyard

40. Indoor toilets

41. Running water

42. Hot water

43. Having a water softener that keeps the water running smoothly through our pipes

44. Having a working DVD/VCR and TV

45. Remote controls

46. Having two cars that run just fine

47. Having one car so old that I don’t care if it’s filled with sand and dog hair

48. Fresh water

49. The ability to drink and eat

50. Being able to sleep

51. Being able to dream

52. Tim’s C-pap machine, which has done away with the need for me to poke him several times during the night

53. Dog beds because dogs look so cute sleeping in them

54. Dogs

55. Cats

56. Deer

57. Raccoons

58. Birds

59. Eagles

60. Horses

61. Cows

62. Soy products so I don’t have to eat cows

63. Tim’s pure joy when eating part of a cow and the fact that we can agree to be different

64. Elephants

65. The brass elephant in my living room

66. The purple flying pig in my bathroom

67. Toothbrushes and toothpaste because without them, my teeth wouldn’t be happy and dentists would be way too rich

68. E-mail

69. Twitter

70. Facebook

71. Being on Facebook as Ducky and how fun it is to interact with other over the top pet owners

72. A working brain

73. The ability to remember good things

74. Music

75. Dancing

76. Microsoft word, which is making numbering this list very easy

77. My ability to cook

78. Getting our oven fixed for $500 less than was originally quoted

79. A working stove and oven

80. The propane that runs our stove, oven, and our gas woodstove

81. A working washer and dryer in my house

82. The fact that Tim does laundry AND irons his own shirts

83. A working iron and ironing board

84. Tim’s bicycle, which he enjoys riding to work

85. The fact that Tim switched to a smaller belt today

86. The fact 99 percent of my hair is still brunette

87.  The pinto bean salad I made yesterday

88. Tim’s appreciation of the pinto bean salad

89. Screens on my windows

90. Windows

91. Not seeing anything except trees on my own property when I look out my windows

92. Living in a small town

93. Libraries

94. New friends I’ve made through this blog

95. Castles

96. Taking photos with a digital camera

97. My ability to walk

98. Having fingernails that grow fast

99. Spending the day working at home with  my dog at my side

100.   Drawers and closets to keep things in

101.   Doors to cover the drawers and closets so I don’t need to keep what’s inside perfectly neat

102.   My massage shower head

103.   Tim’s foot rubs

104.   Lotion

105.   The smell of fresh rain

106.   The way rain sounds on the roof

107.   The way rain feels on my skin

108.   Sunshine

109.   Clouds

110.   Storms

111.   Sunrise

112.   Sunset

113.   The moon

114.   Roads in my town

115.   Freeways

116.   Traffic signals and signs

117.   The fact that 99 percent of drivers do what they’re supposed to do

118.   My ability to drive

119.   My glasses

120.   Being able to read quickly

121.   Being able to write quickly

122.   Playing with Ducky

123.   Laughing

124.   Watching movies with Tim

125.   Popcorn

126.   The fact that I’ve had 3 books published

127.   All the columns and articles I’ve written that can be repurposed into other things

128.   My ability to teach writing

129.   Watching Ducky swim

130.   Teaching Ducky tricks

131.   Watching Ducky perform her tricks

132.   That fact that Ducky comes when she’s called 95 percent of the time

133.   My back massage cushion that does shiatsu while I work

134.   Socks

135.   Memory foam

136.   Pillows

137.   Memories of my dog, Muggins

138.   Clocks

139.   The fact that my thoughts create my reality

140.   The buffet and hutch that Tim made

141.   Tim’s love of woodworking

142.   Funny jokes

143.   Ducky’s freckles

144.   The feel of a good hug

145.   Playing Scrabble with Tim

146.   The solid floor in my home

147.   Locks on my doors

148.   Living in a town where I don’t need locks on my doors even if I use them out of habit

149.   Tables

150.   Chairs

151.   The fact that all my parts work in such a way that I can easily use tables and chairs

152.   How dark our bedroom is at night

153.   Door knobs that make opening doors easy

154.   My jetted tub

155.   The way Ducky can have fun with an empty water bottle

156.   Seeing Ducky’s toys lying around because it reminds me of her joy

157.   Eating lunch out on the deck

158.   The 90 percent of my body that’s perfectly comfortable

159.   Teeth to chew things with

160.   Earrings

161.   The convenience of pierced ears

162.   The fact that there is such a wide variety of color in the world

163.   The fact that my body can digest food and eliminate what my body doesn’t need

164.   The fun of finding agates and shells on the beach

165.   Light

166.   The ease of light switches

167.   Electricity

168.   Batteries

169.   Rechargeable batteries

170.   Phones

171.   Cell phones

172.   Answering machines

173.   Tim’s ability to build websites

174.   Tim’s willingness to do whatever job he needs to do to earn money

175.   Tim’s and my ability to learn new things

176.   The fact that I have gone after my dream instead of “playing it safe”

177.   Thermometers

178.   The way inside of my house looks

179.   My chi machine

180.   Vitamins and minerals

181.   Reading novels to relax

182.   All the pictures I have of Muggins

183.   The fun of doing The Joyful Springer

184.   Meeting dog people through The Joyful Springer

185.   Wind chimes

186.   Singing

187.   Soap

188.   Shampoo

189.   Make-up and the fact that I don’t have to wear it if I don’t want to

190.   The fact that mosquitoes are easy to kill

191.   The way spices make food taste

192.   Having a refrigerator

193.   The fact that no matter how much weight I’ve gained, I still have slender wrists

194.   Having cute ears that don’t stick out

195.   Tim’s patience

196.   The anipals on Twitter

197.   The fact that my 25 year old stereo still works great

198.   Ducky’s dog door

199.   Shelves

200.   Having lots of books

So there’s a begnning.

When you’re looking for things that are right, your mind doesn’t have room to linger over what’s wrong.  It’s amazing how fast you go from feeling bad to feeling good when you do this.

I invite you to play with me.  Please share a list of “right” things in your world.  If you feel like counting them up and putting a total at the end, all the better so we can keep a running total of what we’ve come up with.

Let’s pour on the appreciation here.  Let’s feel great!

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Tim and I are in our car.  He’s driving. I’m gazing out the passenger side window.

Tim says, “Is he any good?”

“What?” I ask.

I have no idea what he’s talking about.  We haven’t been having a conversation.  We’ve been riding in silence.

“Is he any good?” Tim repeats as if hearing the question again will clear it up for me.

“Is who any good?”

“Him,” Tim waves a hand toward the windshield.

“What?  Who?” I look directly in front of the car for some invisible “him” I’m supposed to evaluate.

“The sign.” Tim waves a hand toward the windshield again.

My gaze extends further ahead.  I see a banner hanging across the road. It announces Clint Black’s upcoming performance at a nearby casino.

“Clint Black?” I ask.

Tim nods.

I give him my opinion of Clint Black, for what it’s worth, and I ask him what made him think I would have any idea what he was talking about.  He says, “I figured you were looking at what I was looking at.”

DA DUM! Did you hear that big orchestral crescendo that denotes something important?

Their Experience Is Not Your Experience

Just as I’m not usually looking where Tim is looking, I am not interpreting the world around me the way he is or the way anyone else is for that matter.

So why would I act like I AM interpreting the world the same way as everyone else?  Why would I act like what is there to be seen is a FACT that I must deal with?

Most of us base our actions and decisions on a “reality” that others have created. We react to a world that we think is REAL when in fact it is just a collection of interpretations generated by millions of different vibrational frequencies, i.e. people focusing their thoughts.

Here’s the way Abraham-Hicks explains it:

“In this tangible, physical world, where you can see and smell and hear and taste and touch, your physical senses are literally your interpreters of vibrations. And so, the world you perceive is about your sensors that are interpreting it from vibration to perception.

”When you look at your television, a similar thing is taking place: A mechanism has projected and translated, and now you are using other physical human sensors to further translate. You don’t look at your television and assume that somehow those people are really in that little box. You know that the screen, or the process, is giving you an interpreted version of omething. And everything in your world is that.

“It’s hard for you to get a sense of that, because you are surrounded with so many other interpreters who are born with similar sensors or senses to yours.

“And so, when we say to you, what you see with your eyes is an interpretation of vibration, what you feel with your fingertips, what you hear with your ears, what you smell with your nose, all that you are experiencing is vibrational interpretation, you say (because so many of you are having a similar experience) ‘Well, this interpretation of vibration is reality.’ And we say, the reason you are calling it reality is because so many others are agreeing with you, in general terms, about the reality you are perceiving. But, in truth, you are all interpreting uniquely from your perspective.

“We approach your physical experience in a rather unusual way because once you understand that you are vibrational interpreters, then you can deliberately take it further. Then you can go beyond your physical senses, which are interpreting vibration by utilizing your emotional basis, which is a further interpretation of more defined, intricate interpreting. Your emotions tell you more subtle vibrations.”

In other words, since nothing we’re experiencing with our physical senses is as set as we think it is (and we think it’s set because everyone else is acting as if it is), we can choose to see our world with no reference to what others would call reality.  We can totally ignore what others are perceiving.

AND we can ignore what our physical selves are experiencing.

We do not have to put our focus on what our physical senses are telling us.  Our physical senses may be staring right at a Clint Black banner, but our vibrational focus, translated to us through our emotions, can be happily looking out another window at a vista that is more interesting or pleasing to us, a vista that is more in line with what we would like to create in our world.

I have spent far too much time in the last few years letting my physical self direct my gaze toward a reality created by my past alignment and by others’ alignment.  When I had my “Clint Black Banner Moment,” I understood with utter clarity that I can and in fact MUST not only choose where I want to put my attention but also stick with my choice no matter what others want to point out to me.

We don’t live in a simple world where we all perceive the same things.  We live in a vibrational world that we can each interpret differently.  Call it an alternate reality or a vision or a want—it’s really simply truth.  Each of us can experience the truth of what our desires have created by using our emotions to direct us toward the true reality—the one in which our nonphysical already resides.

I’m grateful today for Tim’s out of context question.  It showed me how silly it is to let a physical perception dictate our vibrational reality.

And so, is Clint Black any good?

I don’t really care.

All I care about is that reality is good … when we decide that it is.

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Ducky turns one year old in a week.  Hard to believe.  I can still close my eyes and feel that warm little ball of wiggles I held in my arms when we brought her home last October.  Tim says he vaguely remembers being able to carry her around.  She’s now almost 45 pounds of mostly spring-generated muscle.

Since Ducky is my greatest and most consistent source of joy (she’s sort of like a cannon that shoots me into the Vortex), I decided to spend a couple bucks for the props to stage a good Ducky birthday picture for The Joyful Springer (it will be on the site on the 24^th).   So a few days ago, Tim and I stopped in Wal-mart to get a birthday hat and balloon.

As we were heading through the store, we heard two little kids singing:  “Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday, dear Mary, happy birthday to you.”  They were off key in the extreme, but what they lacked in musical ability they made up for in enthusiasm.

I smiled because I thought that was pretty amazing.  Here we were to buy birthday items, and these kids were singing “Happy Birthday.”

The children were maybe three to five years old, a boy and a girl.  Both were in a cart and both had big smiles on their faces.

After the first round of singing, they started over.  This time, they sang happy birthday to Shannon.  Then it was a round to David.  Then it was a round to Brianna.  And it went on.

“It sounds like they’re singing happy birthday to everyone they know,” Tim said.

I nodded, smiling even wider.

These kids were having SO much fun.  Their mom was busy shopping, and they were oblivious to that.  They were just singing at the top of their lungs, happy as could be.

“I want to be a little kid,” I said.  “No worries.  No figuring out how to get money or what to do next.  Kids just have fun.”

“Then be a little kid,” Tim said.

I looked at him.

“Be a kid,” he repeated.  “Forget worries.  Stop figuring things out.  Just have fun.”

I watched the kids again.  I could feel the relief surge through me. Yes!

Of course, Tim and I were describing the Vortex.  Though I’ve been in the vicinity of the Vortex more in the last month or so than I have in the last year, I realized as I listened to those exuberant children that I still wasn’t there as much as I wanted, and I may not have been there when I thought I was there.  I know I rarely felt like those singing kids did.

I thought I was allowing things to fall into place, but I was still trying to figure things out.  Yes, I had accepted what is, and yes, I had my mind on what I wanted instead of what is.  Still, I was spending too much time thinking about HOW to put what I wanted into place.  In other words, I was acting happy but I wasn’t truly vibrating happy.

Real Happy

I left Wal-mart singing, “Happy happy day to me, happy happy day to me, happy happy day, dear Ande, happy happy day to me.”  It made me grin like an idiot.  I’m pretty sure that’s the feeling of the Vortex.

That day in Wal-mart, those children serenaded dozens of people.  I watched many blank or frowning faces transform into relaxed and happy faces as people turned toward the sound of the singing. Sometimes we don’t even notice that we’re not in joy until we see or hear joy.  Then as our energy shifts to match it, we realize we had been a long way from it.

Pay close attention to how you feel.  Are you happy or are you just acting happy?  The law of attraction doesn’t care how you’re acting.  It cares about how you are, or more specifically, how your vibration is.

You can’t fake vibration, and vibration is what attracts.

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A few days ago, Tim and I met with an attorney and provided him with all the paperwork and information he needs to prepare to file my Chapter 7 bankruptcy.  Before that appointment, I had about three weeks to get used to the idea that last year at this time, I thought I had more than $50,000 in the bank and no balances running on my credit cards and now here I am filing bankruptcy because of something dumb that my own husband did, something that ran up all my cards and ran down the bank account.

I realize now that I’ve spent the last ten months in shock.  When you think you’re trucking along doing just fine and then you get gobsmacked with a “what is” reality that seems to have erupted from the ground beneath your feet like a malevolent alien, shock is a reasonable response, for sure.  But it’s not all that helpful to stay stuck in shock for a long time. Shock isn’t exactly a positive vibration.

While in this shock, I have also rocketed up and down the emotional scale.  I’ve been in abject despair, barely contained rage, relentless disappointment, edgy annoyance, and extreme frustration.  I’ve also been in hope and optimism, and yes, I’ve even been in appreciation and love and joy.

I didn’t realize until I gave into the bankruptcy that shock had been the foundation of all my emotion for these many months.  I didn’t realize that I’d yet to fully accept my situation.

The Broken Table

The word bankruptcy can be traced back to the days when business was done on benches or tables in the street.  When a businessman couldn’t pay his debts, his trading table or bench was destroyed—this was the indicator that he was out of business.   The Latin word for table is “bancus.”  And “ruptus” means broken.  Thus “bankruptcy.”

The symbolism seems appropriate to me.  I certainly feel like my table (my sense of stability and security) has been broken.

And until this last week, I have resisted the idea of admitting that it was so broken that I couldn’t fix it without going through a legal process I’d always viewed with an extremely negative perspective.  Did you notice the important word in that sentence?

Resistance.

We all know that when you have resistance, you can’t find alignment with source energy and thus you can’t bring in by law of attraction what you desire to have in your life. And so, all of my shock and refusal to accept that I am where I am has kept me stuck where I am.

Happy Hillbillies

The morning before Tim and I left to go see the attorney, Tim set his metal-framed glasses on the kitchen counter, and when he picked them up again, he was shocked (do you see a theme here?) to find he held only half his glasses.  They’d split right down the middle of the nose piece.

He was baffled.  He hadn’t mistreated the glasses in any way.  They just inexplicably broke.

And oddly, that’s when the shock finally left me.

After Tim and I taped the glasses together and he put them on, I burst out laughing. This was all so ridiculous.

“You really ought to just take off your belt,” I said, “and tie your pants up with a rope, and we can call ourselves hillbillies.  We have all the old stuff and old cars …” (When you prepare for bankruptcy, you do an inventory of everything you have, and I faced the fact that most of what we have is so old it has no value to anyone but us.) “… and now you have taped glasses frames.  Let’s just embrace our situation.”

Tim didn’t see the humor.

I was still laughing.  “Heck, the TV ‘Hillbillies” struck oil,” I said.

I kept giggling.  Maybe I was having a breakdown.

And if I was, it was a good one.  It was a breakdown of resistance.  It was acceptance of what is.

Not that I said acceptance of what is.  I’m not saying focus on what is.

You see, I’ve been doing my best NOT to focus on what is.  But what I’ve discovered is you can’t remove your focus from what is until you accept it.  If you’re pushing against it, you’re focusing on it. You have to be able to say, “It is what it is, and that’s okay.”

What do you do with a broken table?

Well, you can throw it away.  Or you can you use the wood for something new.

Transformations In Wood

A couple weeks ago, my friend, Nancy, sent me an e-mail about extraordinary wood carvings that were created from the tree skeletons left in Galveston after Hurricane Ike’s fury roared through.  About 40,000 gorgeous old trees died.  But the area residents managed to turn this devastating loss into something positive.  They cut down the trees and left the stumps, which wood carvers turned into stunning sculptures of dogs and dolphins and toads and mermaids and angels and a whole lot more.

When I saw the pictures of some of these sculptures, I was struck by the awesome creativity and beauty that can grow from the ugliness of loss.  I knew I needed to apply the lesson to my own situation, but I wasn’t able to do that until I faced my own broken table.

On Thursday, the day after the meeting with the attorney, I began a new way of being in my world.  I’m not just changing a few ways of thinking, I’m changing many ways of thinking AND many ways of acting.

I am taking the broken table of my circumstances and turning it into something new.  I am standing in the now of my life, and without looking back at how I got here, I’m designing a new now and a new future, and in doing so, I’m also designing a new past, because my new thoughts are revising my past as well.

In other words, I’m carving something awesome, something abundant, out of the broken pieces of my life.

What will my carving be when I’m done with it?

I don’t know, but I’ll share it as soon as it takes shape.

In the meantime, I offer this to those who think they can’t possibly be happy in their current situation:

I am standing in the aftermath of a personal hurricane that destroyed much in my life (the finances are just a few of the “trees” that have died in my “what is” reality), and I am happy.  I’m laughing.  I’m having fun.  I’m appreciating.  I’m finding positive aspects.

You don’t have to wait for alignment to bring you something you desire in order to feel good.  Just feel good.  Get in alignment.  And bask in “ahh” of that ease.  Then allow the universe to hand you the tools you need to carve something new.

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So there’s this Vortex, to use Abraham-Hicks terminology.  It’s an extraordinary font of energy—organized, creational energy that holds everything asked for by everyone.

I think of the Vortex as a sort of energy clearinghouse where everything that’s asked for is given, where every request is put into place in a cooperative way for the good of all who are asking.  EVERYTHING asked for, from a better tasting toothpaste to the vastest monetary fortune imaginable, is given in the Vortex.

Obviously, the Vortex is the place to be.

And how do we get there?

We all know the answer to that one, right?

We get there by releasing resistance, by aligning with Source … in a nutshell, by feeling good.

If you really commit to staying aware of your energy, to really knowing whether or not you feel good (don’t laugh—most people in our society are not conscious of how they feel), you can almost discern a pleasurable elastic pulling sensation when you are sucked into the Vortex.  At times, I swear I almost hear a THWAWCK sound too.

And in the reverse, when you’re disgorged from the Vortex, you can feel that too.  I experience “devortexization” (like my new word?) as a sudden energy plummet.  This enervation is generally accompanied by muscle tension (hence my About Face technique) and for me, a sudden desire to eat something with no known nutritional value.

But remaining in the spirit of Fun, Fun, Fun, since I had my Riding the Rapids epiphany, my number one priority has been looking for ways to flip the switch on my energy and vibration.  I need as many ways to do this as possible because I am living some pretty strong contrast right now.  My “what is” is compelling to my pay-attention-to-the-physical-reality trained mind.

Even Abraham-Hicks has noted that it’s much easier to get into and stay in the Vortex before you manifest something lousy.  For that reason, law of attraction coaches and writers who have never created much of a mess, whose biggest “problems” are an extra 10 pounds of body fat, a need to double their six figure income, and a desire for more travel or fame or whatever, don’t impress me much. It’s relatively easy to manifest wonders when 90 percent of your “what is” reality is already wonderful.  The great stuff you have now, if you appreciate it, is the springboard to even better things.

But what of those of us powerful creators who, in our earnest efforts to understand the law of attraction, managed to focus more on lack than on abundance and created big, big messes? It takes a bit more finesse to find ways into the Vortex when your “what is” is 90 percent unpleasant and 10 percent pleasant.

Because I’m in that 90 percent unpleasant place, I’ve made it my intention to find as many ways to feel good as possible, and the law of attraction has responded to my intention with many fun methods.

My latest method is singing.

The High Note Method Of Revortexization

I’ve always enjoyed singing, but most of my singing was always done when I was alone in the car or the shower.  A few years ago, though, Tim (my hubby, a talented singer and musician, graduate of the Army School of Music) talked me into joining the community choir he directed.  Tim informed me that I’m a tenor, and he explained that I would be singing harmony. I’d never sung harmony before.

But I learned how, and I discovered that not only am I good at learning and remembering harmony notes, I love doing it.  Whenever I was singing, I felt good.  All thoughts of negative circumstances fell away.

The choir is no more (long, very non-Vortexy story, so I’ll skip it), and for the last couple years, I’ve been so caught up in the yuck of “what is” that I haven’t even remembered to sing much.

But in answer to my request for more fun, the law of attraction popped a song into my head: “On Top of the World” by the Carpenters.  Yes, I thought.  That’s how I want to feel.

So I tweaked the lyrics a little to refer more to abundance than love, and I began singing that song dozens of times a day. Then law of attraction nudged me with another song—“Believe It Or Not,” the theme from Greatest American Hero. I tweaked those lyrics too: “Believe it or not, I’m walking on air, I’ve always wanted to feel this free …”

Tim started singing along with me, and now he’s going to write me harmony lines for these two songs, and I’m going to sing harmony to his base melody.

Singing launches me into the Vortex every time. If I feel myself going low (low energy, low on the emotional scale), I can get higher and higher with singing.  What works for me is not just music but singing.  Just listening to music doesn’t quite do it for me.  I need to sing, and I need to know the lyrics, or better yet, rewrite the lyrics to fit what I want to be saying.  This focused singing releases resistance in an instant.

Not everyone responds to singing, but if you’re at all musical, you might give my High Note method of “revortexization” (as opposed to devortexization) a try.

1.  Pick an upbeat song. If you’re looking for some uplifting songs, check out Ducky’s Joyful Springer channel on Blip.fm. She’s a Vortexy DJ, and she blips feel good songs.

2.  Look up the lyrics online (search the song name plus lyrics).

3.  Change the lyrics as needed to say what you want to say.

4.  Practice singing your version of the song until you’ve memorized the lyrics.

5.  Sing your song any time you start to feel yourself being pulled out of the Vortex.

This is a really fun process that acts like a big old eraser, wiping out the siren song of “what is.”

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If you’d like a reminder of the Vortex’s power, watch this video:

Fast Tube by Casper

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Photo by emilyamimu on Flickr.

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I know the law of attraction is one of the energetic laws that bring order to the universe.  I don’t believe it.  I know it.

Even though I know it, however, I have doubts.

These doubts aren’t about the existence of the law of attraction. They’re about my understanding of how to think and feel in a way that makes the law of attraction a positive force in my life instead of a negative one.

The basics of law of attraction’s impact on us are simple:

1.     Think thoughts that match up vibrationally with what you desire.

2.     The better a thought feels to you, the better it matches up with things you want.

Simple … but at least for me, it’s the most difficult thing I’ve ever attempted to learn how to do.

I have had so many times in my life when I thought I was feeling about as good as I could possibly feel, times during which I was sure my thoughts were focused in the direction I wanted to go, times during which I felt exuberant anticipation for what I desired, … times during which the experiences I received were in no way something I wanted.  Why?

What do I need to do differently?  How could I think I was feeling as good as I can feel and yet create one nasty thing after another?

Because I’ve been baffled by my own lack of results, I’ll admit that even though I know comparisons are rarely useful and my vibration is my own work, I look at what others are doing.  I listen to what others say they think and feel, and I see what results they get.  When I see good thoughts bring good results, it encourages me to keep working at this simple process that for some reason is evading me.

One of the people I watch is my husband.  When you live with someone, if you’re close, you have a reasonably good insight into their vibration.  You can’t get in the other person’s head, but you notice body language and expression, and you listen to words.

And when you live with someone, you’re co-creating your reality.  Even though you can’t create someone else’s reality, by default what you create will probably impact your partner.  What he or she creates will impact you.

How Did He Create That?

So I’m curious about Tim’s creations.  Because he feels like a millionaire with complete financial freedom, I’m quite invested in seeing his physical reality match up with his virtual reality.

When Tim and I got sued, I was astounded.  That I would get sued didn’t surprise me that much.  Though I’ve worked and worked at feeling financially secure, I’ve not achieved that feeling with any consistency.  But Tim?  He’s a virtual millionaire.  How does he get sued for defaulting on a debt?

I posed this question to a friend a few days ago.  After chastising me for comparing my vibration with Tim’s and for talking about this bad thing that I didn’t want and that’s now in the past (though not really—it’s ongoing and requires continued action on my part), my friend said something that resulted in a huge shift in how I see vibration.

She said, “Whatever you felt at the time the negative manifestation occurred is how you must have been feeling before it happened because otherwise it couldn’t possibly have happened to you.”

Those of you well-versed in deliberate creation are probably shaking your heads right now, thinking, “That’s nothing big.  Obviously you can’t create something you weren’t a vibrational match to, and the way we can tell our vibrations is through our feelings.”

I know this isn’t big insight, but I’ve never drilled into it quite this way.  Though, I have often linked specific thoughts to events that follow, I’ve never specifically linked the emotion after the event to the emotion before.

I know that when we got sued, I felt scared and angry and embarrassed.  Before we got sued, I had moments of fear and anger and embarrassment.  That was easy.

What about Tim?

I asked him what he felt when we got sued.  “Confused,” he said.

What?

“I was just a little confused because I thought the company we hired to handle our debt was doing what was necessary to keep lawsuits from happening,” he explained.

“You weren’t angry?” I asked.

“No.”

“Worried or scared?”

“No.”

“Embarrassed?”

“No.”

“How do you feel now?” I asked.

“Fine. It’s a non-issue.”

“What about the inconvenience of filing papers and convincing them that we don’t have anything they can sell to get their money?”

“Oh, I guess that’s a little annoying, but it’s not a big deal.”

This conversation was like a whoosh, blasting cobwebs out of my brain.  All this time I’d been baffled by how Tim or others could create things with which they seemed to not be aligned, I was assessing their results from a skewed perspective, MY perspective.

What I did was attribute MY feelings about an event to Tim.  Since I was afraid, angry, and embarrassed, I assumed he was too, and I couldn’t understand why someone as secure and happy as he was could create an experience full of so much fear, anger, and embarrassment.

But he didn’t feel fear, anger, and embarrassment.  He felt confusion and a little annoyance.  His experience, the same experience I had, matched up with his vibration just as the experience matched up with my vibration, but our vibrations were different.

Maybe I’m the only one who gets off track and looks at the world around me to see what others are attracting.  Maybe I’m the only one who has felt I might be doing something very wrong because my experiences are still so far from what I truly desire.

If I’m not the only one, though, if you too have wondered why someone could manifest this or that, maybe my insight will help you.  We all process events in our lives differently.  It’s not all the same to you and me.  Something that might be devastating to you might be no big deal to me and vice versa.  What you perceive as a tragedy may not be tragic at all to the person it’s happening to.

To me, this explains a lot.  It explains how things I think are BAD happen to people who appear to be aligned with only good things.  The thing I think is so bad may not feel so bad to the person it’s happened to.

I find this comforting.

And I find it useful.  All this insight is helping me focus even more clearly on how I feel, on every little nuance of my emotions.

I’ve started looking at all the things I want and thinking about how I know I’ll feel when I have those things I want.  I’ve redoubled my efforts to find ways to feel that way now.

I know that looking at negative manifestations isn’t the way to create a vibrational match to desired experiences, but at least this time, dissecting what happened to me and to Tim helped me.  It gave me greater clarity into how to do this simple yet challenging thing called deliberate creation.

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The other day, my mother brought me the May 23 newspaper comics page so she could show me Classic Peanuts (I don’t subscribe to the paper).  In the strip, Snoopy sits in front of his dog bowl, his tongue hanging out.  He’s thinking, “Empty! And I’m dying of thirst.”

In the next frame, Snoopy carries his bowl in his mouth.  In the third frame, he sits in front of an outdoor faucet, his bowl in his mouth, holding it positioned under the faucet.  The next frame is identical.  The next frame, he looks away from the faucet with a worried expression.  In the next frame, he’s back to staring at the faucet, patiently holding his dish beneath it.

In the next frame, rain starts to fall.  In the next, the rain is heaver.  Snoopy still holds his bowl under the faucet.

In the next frame, he carries his bowl through the rain.  In the next frame, he drinks water from the bowl.  In the next frame, the rain stops, and he sits back.

In the final frame, he lies on top of his doghouse thinking, “That’s one I’m going to have to think about for awhile.”

Unlike Snoopy, I didn’t have to think about it for awhile.  I got it immediately.  It was the guidance I’ve been wanting.  Thank you, law of attraction.

A few days before Mom brought me that comic strip, I watched an Abraham-Hicks  DVD, Think And Be Slim. In the DVD, Abraham explains the process of using action to improve vibration.

Since they usually advise the opposite—use improved vibration to make action more effective—they got my attention with this process.  What they suggested was that if you wanted to do something like lose 50 pounds, for instance, you create a sort of balance sheet on which write what you want to have happen on the way to losing the 50 pounds.

For example, on the sheet, you’d have “lose 50 pounds” on the far right.  On the far left, you’d put some little action you feel like you could take now, like “drink more water.” You fill in the gaps between with various actions and milestones that will occur along the way to losing the 50 pounds.

They explain the process as it applies to debt as well.  They tell people to list all companies to which they owe money, and then they tell people to focus only on the first thing on the list.  You work on paying off the first debt and only that debt.  They said that when people do that, giving no thought to all the other debts, something always comes along to help clear those other debts.  They get an inheritance or a raise or win money or whatever.

As Abraham says, doing this one little thing “is all you can do, and it’s enough.”

Let’s look at that again:  “It’s all you can do, and it’s enough.”

This process didn’t create any big ahas for me with regard to debt.  Tim and I are paying into a fund that will be used to settle all our credit card debt over time, and it’s all we can do.  So far, it hasn’t been enough, or so it seems at this point.

But with regard to weight, the process appealed to me.  I made a list of things I wanted to do or have.  I want to get back to a point where I eat healthy like I know how to do, but I’m not there yet.  I want to get back to working out regularly, but I’m not there yet.

So what can I do?  I came up with two things:  I can use the chi machine regularly and I can dance five minutes a day. Little things, but it’s all I can do.

I started doing these things, and sure enough, just as Abraham promised, I felt a little better about my body.  Little actions.  Improved vibration.  Obviously that will lead me to something better then something better then something better.

But ….

On the subject of money, specifically creating the income I desire, I still didn’t get how this process would help me.

What is the little action I can take?  How is it enough?

Then Mom brought me that comic strip.  And there was the answer.

The Snoopy Method of Manifestation

Let’s look at what Snoopy did.

• Contrast (thirst) created a desire for water.
• Snoopy took a little action (carried his bowl to the faucet).
• Once he took the action, he waited in anticipation and expectation (stared at the faucet).
• He had a moment of doubt (that one frame of worry).
• He returned to expectation (looked back at the faucet).
• The universe brought him what he wanted (it started to rain).

Here’s are the two crucial aspects of the Snoopy process:

1. Snoopy only took ONE action.  When it didn’t immediately get results, he didn’t try anything else.
2. Snoopy’s original action didn’t result in him getting what he wanted.  The water didn’t come through the faucet. Rain brought the water. Snoopy could have stayed on top of his doghouse with his dish and waited for rain.

Why did this process work?  Because taking the action he took shifted Snoopy’s alignment.  It put him in a place of eager expectation of what he wanted.  The law of attraction did the rest. That improved vibrational alignment brought him what he desired.

The place that I’ve messed up with regard to money (and this is a mistake I’ve made over and over and over again) is at that moment of doubt.  Whereas Snoopy immediately redirected his attention to his expectation after that moment of doubt, I use doubt as an impetus to take more action.

If I’d been Snoopy in the comic strip, after that moment of doubt, I’d have started pounding on the faucet with my dish.  I’d have started pawing at it.  I’d have left the faucet and started running around looking for someone to turn on the faucet or fill my dish.  I would have barked and howled.  In other words, I would have started taking misaligned action.

This is what I’ve been doing for several months.

I took an inspired action last fall after I discovered my financial situation.  I took my water dish to the faucet (wrote a manuscript).

But water (money) didn’t come.  I panicked.

So I took more action (started another manuscript).  No water.

More action (looked for freelance work). No water.

More action (revamped my e-book program).  No water.

Last week, I was utterly enervated.  I had to struggle to do everything I did.

Now I know why.  My inner being wants me to cease and desist.

I’ve brought my bowl to the faucet.  I have a completed manuscript.  I have blogs.  I have an excellent e-book and audio program.  It’s time for me to stop and expect the universe to do the rest.

And the money I want may come from none of the actions I’ve taken.  I finally GET that (of course I’ve understood it from an intellectual standpoint, but for some reason, I haven’t integrated it into my experience).  I don’t need to look at what has or hasn’t happened with respect to the actions I’ve taken.  I don’t need to look at submission results or traffic to sites or sales or anything.  Those results don’t matter.  What matters is I’ve done what I can do.  And it’s enough.

And now it’s time to allow the universe to do the rest.

I’ve done all I can do, and it’s enough.

Snoopy understood that.  Now I do too.

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The photo is of my dog, Muggins, who passed away in October last year at 17 years old.  In the photo, she was 10 weeks old; she brought her empty water dish to me, dropped it in front of me, and planted her foot in it. She knew that was all the action she needed to take to get what she wanted.

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Lately, I’ve had to turn this into a mantra:  “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.  Focus on the feeling.”

When you’re finding reasons to feel good or looking for ways to feel like you already have what you want, either by using track changes or other visualizing methods, it’s ever so tempting to look for results.

We all love law of attraction results.  We love to hear those stories about how someone thought about something incredible and got it.  And of course, we all love to experience those results.

Almost daily, I remind myself that I manifested my husband.  I like remembering that I have the ability to deliberately flow vibrational energy toward a specific result and have the result appear in my life.

I’m discovering, however, because of a spate of unpleasant events recently, that too much focus on results can knock you off the alignment track. 

Week before last, Tim’s adoptive mother died (he was taken from his biological mother’s care, for reasons of neglect, when he was barely 2 years old).  Tim’s mother’s death wasn’t cause for grieving, in and of itself.  She had Alzheimer’s and had been unaware of the people in her life for some time; Tim and I both knew that she had moved on to pure positive energy, and for that, we were grateful. However, her death triggered feelings about an even greater loss for Tim—the loss of his childhood memories.  His head injury wiped out all memory of his parents and his history.  He doesn’t remember his mother at all. By the time he talked to her after his head injury, she didn’t remember him.  Her death brought up that loss for him.

I don’t think anyone who hasn’t been stripped of his past could understand what Tim has experienced.  We speak of it blithely, but being almost 50 years old with only 4 years of memories isn’t a picnic.

Still, Tim and I understand alignment, so after we got word of her death, we immediately set to work to move up the emotional scale.  I told him all the stories about his mother that I could remember him telling me before his head injury.  I told him that when we visited his parents six years ago, his mother repeatedly said (the Alzheimer’s was advanced even then), “Tim will always be my little boy.”  She loved him SO much, and Tim and I talked about that.

He felt better.  I felt better.

Then the big winds came.  We generally get high winds and rain October through March here on the coast … never in May.  But a big storm blew in the night Tim’s mother died.

We live on a heavily wooded half acre.  In the fourteen years I’ve been here, I’ve never lost a tree.  Trees get blown down in this area all the time, but not my trees.  I LOVE my trees.  I know they’re fine.  I am quite secure about my trees.

Even so, one on the most sheltered side of the house snapped in half the night Tim’s mother died, and the top fell into another tree and uprooted it, tipping the second tree precariously into others.

I was shocked.  I have PERFECT TREE ALIGNMENT.  How could that happen?

I took a breath and said, “At least they fell away from the house.”

And we called a tree removal service.  They said it would cost $850 to take the tipped tree down.  They might as well have said $8.5 million.

Using a hack saw and elbow grease, Tim cut up the top half of the tree that fell and now we’re just intending for the leaning tree to stay where it is.

The next day, a narrow rift appeared in the middle of my laptop screen.  I told myself it was just a little line.  It would be fine.

By the end of the day, it was a three inch rift. The next day, we had to drive 1 ½ hours each way to the nearest UPS store to send the computer back to the manufacturer for repair.

“Well, at least it’s under warranty,” I said.  And when my mother offered to let me use her laptop until mine was returned to me, I said, “Well, at least I have a computer to use in the meantime.”  And I said, “At least Tim had just backed up all my files.”

We were a bit buffeted at this point, but Tim and I reminded each other that the small stuff matters, and we kept appreciating and clicking, and we also talked about the trips we’ll take when we get the RV we want.

Then Thursday evening, the doorbell rang.  A process server handed us papers.  One of the credit card companies we owe money to is suing us.

I sat down and cried.

Tim said, “We’re fine.”

He was unmoved by recent events.  He knew they didn’t have anything to do with where we were going.  He still felt rich.  He still felt happy.

I, on the other hand, was pissed.

How can stuff like this happen when we spend so much time focusing on feeling good?

And that’s when I started chanting, “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.”

I remembered this Abraham-Hicks quote: “If you are predominantly focused on the RESULTS of your focused thoughts rather then FEELING your way within your thoughts, it is easy to lose your way.”

And this quote:

“We want YOU to be the reason you go into your vortex. And we want the reason to be because: It feels good. And I can.  … Every good feeling you have is for one reason and one reason only: You lined up with You just now.”

I knew that if I sat there and thought about the lousy results I was seeing in my life, my emotions about those results would flow like a line of falling dominoes and take me right to the bottom of the emotional scale and stay there.  I knew that I had to find reasons to feel good just for the sake of feeling good.

For right now, I can’t let myself think about the results I want in my life.  I can’t think about the money.  I have too much negative vibration on that subject because of the things that have been happening.

I need to just think about feeling good for feeling good’s sake.

I need to play with my pup.  I need to take long baths.  I need to remember how much my husband loves me.

It’s been three days since the process server came.  I don’t know yet what’s going to happen with that.  But I feel okay.

I’ve savored the sound of the rain on the roof, and I’ve laughed with friends.  I’ve inhaled one of my favorite scents, that happy-doggy-playing smell that dogs’ fur gets after they’ve been playing outside.  I’ve spent a lot of time with my eyes closed, using track changes revision to remember the last year as I wanted it to be.

And I keep chanting, “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.”

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Photo by Aussiegall on Flickr.

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Many years ago, I dated a man who was chronically late.  And I don’t mean just a little late.  He lived in Seattle, and when he’d come to my home for a visit, he usually arrived one to two hours later than he said he would.

I wasn’t all that pleased about this, and I told him so.  I was especially annoyed when he offered up excuses like, “I had to clean my vegetable bin before I left.”

In response to my displeasure, my soon to be ex-boyfriend, gave me the book, Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson.  Over 100 weeks on the bestseller’s list, this little volume was full of great, down-to-earth advice on how to let go of the little stresses of life, but it didn’t make me feel any better about my boyfriend’s tardiness.

The message I got from the book and from my boyfriend was, “Don’t do anything about the little annoyances of life. The small stuff doesn’t matter.”

In some respects, this is a good message, one that helps with alignment.  Certainly, complaining and noticing all the little things that are “wrong” in the world don’t activate a vibration that draws wonderful experiences into our lives.  But making ourselves be okay with all the little stuff that we don’t like isn’t the way to go about aligning.  It’s the smiley face vs. the rodeo clown.  Trying to convince yourself that you feel good about something you don’t feel good about is a waste of time.

Abraham-Hicks say “It’s not big things that are making the big differences in your life.  It’s this series of little things.  It’s your day to day response to what’s going on.  It’s those day to day thoughts that you think that you want to start shifting.”

In other words, what we need to be paying attention to, what matters, isn’t the big life issues like money or finding a life partner or healing a chronic illness.  What truly matters is all the small stuff.

Small Stuff Thoughts

When we’re learning to use our emotional guidance system, we tend to pay attention to the big negative thoughts.  We notice when we get really angry about a big issue or we’re deeply sad about a chronic problem.  While of course we need to find relief on these subjects, these aren’t the subjects that matter the most.

My husband, Tim, is far better at aligning about the big stuff than I am.  He’s utterly secure about money even though our physical reality doesn’t match that security.  He has no major health issues.  He has the life partner he wants (lucky me).  He’s cool.

When it comes to the little stuff, though, Tim used to get out of alignment all the time.  So did I.  We noticed and became annoyed at things we saw on TV or things people said or little mistakes we made or things breaking.

Because Tim was in alignment about the big stuff, he wasn’t concerned about this misalignment over little stuff.  But I kept repeating something I’d heard Abraham say:  “When you get out of alignment over anything, you’re out of alignment over everything.” I knew the small stuff mattered.  Tim began to agree.

Over time, Tim and I have gotten really good at shifting our “small stuff thoughts.”  Little annoyances have become contrast that helps define a clearer vision of what we want.  Inconveniences now hold positive aspects that serve us.  Judgment has given way to appreciation. Impatience has morphed into acceptance.

From the moment we get up in the morning until we fall asleep at night, we put out a vibrational frequency.  That frequency is usually in response to what is, what we’re encountering as the day unfolds.

We don’t get up in the morning and have A FREQUENCY that’s the response to the DAY.  We get up and have a whole series of little frequency shifts that are the response to the moments in our day.  The way to create a vibrational frequency that allows law of attraction to bring good experiences our way isn’t to get up and decide we’re going to feel great about money or health or love or whatever.  The way to find that vibrational match is to get up and decide we’re going to find reasons to feel good about every little aspect of the day.

As Abraham-Hicks say, “If you had one goal, and that was to feel good, you would never again need to hear another word from anyone. You would live successfully and happily and in a way of fulfilling your life’s purpose ever after.”

Feeling Good Is A Lot of Little Things

In order to feel good, you must understand that the small stuff matters.

Feeling good is

• delighting in the hummingbird that flits from bush to bush in your hard.
• savoring the warm, smooth feel of your pet’s fur.
• melting into your friend’s hug.
• being grateful for the clarification on what you want your new car to have when your old car has mechanical problems.
• looking at your slender wrists instead of your big hips when you see your reflection.
• being grateful that your man loves you when you find his toenail clippings on the floor.
• reminding yourself that your body is smarter than you are, and it can process that candy bar just fine, thank you, if you don’t bring all your old vibrations about junk food into the mix.
• enjoying cleaning house because you have a house to clean.
• exulting in finding a penny.
• loving the rain because rain nourishes the plants.

I could go on, but I know you get it.

Vibrational alignment happens in the small stuff.

If you’re trying to visualize and affirm your way to alignment on some big issue, that’s fine, but remember what truly matters.  True alignment is linking one improved thought to another to another, on one little subject then another and another.

When you understand that the small stuff matters, you can link your way to a vibrational alignment, one simple thought at a time.

Photo by John-Morgan on Flickr.

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I love watching the law of attraction in action.  I’ve been thinking a lot in the last couple weeks about decisions I need to make.  So what have I received?  Several e-mails from people who are making decisions and want my input.

I appreciate those e-mails. Answering those e-mails was just what I needed to make my own decisions.  Every time I answered one of those e-mails, I was reminded of the foolproof two-step way of making great decisions.

Step One—Take The Path of Least Resistance

In the last post, I talked about The Ahhh Effect, the importance of releasing resistance and how to know when you have released resistance.  Once you have a sense of your resistance, you can use it to guide your decisions.
Every time you have a decision to make, you will have a feeling attached to each of your choices.  That feeling is your emotional guidance system in action.  It’s the way your inner being communicates with you.  The better you feel, the more aligned you are with source energy.  The worse you feel, the less aligned you are.  When you’re aligned, you’re acting in sync with your inner guidance, and these actions are always in your best interest.

So if you have a choice, here’s what you do.

1.     Write down your choices.

2.     Imagine you’ve made the first choice on your list.  You’re doing what that choice would entail or you’ve done it.  How does it feel to do or have done that? Close your eyes and really feel like you’ve made that choice.

3.     Write down a number, on the scale of 1 to 10 with 1 being the worst and 10 being the best, that represents how that choice feels.

4.     Repeat steps 2 and 3 with each of your choices.

Whichever of your choices made you feel the best is your path of least resistance.

Keep in mind that “feel the best” can be relative.  Sometimes, none of your choices feel good (I’ve had a lot of experience with that lately).  In that case, you may be talking about the difference between a feeling of pure, unadulterated loathing (a 1 on the scale) and absolute disgust (a 2 on the scale).  You’d pick the choice that gave you the 2 feeling.

I didn’t understand this process in the past.  I used to think a decision had to actually feel good in order for it to be the right one.  It doesn’t.  It just has to feel a little better than the other choice because the second step in the decision making process will assure that any decision, even one that feels lousy, will work out great.

Step Two—Find The Positive Aspects of Your Choice

Once you’ve made your decision, it’s done.  Now, even if you didn’t make the “right” one (you weren’t honest about how you felt or you couldn’t really tell how you felt or whatever), all you have to do is get in alignment with the one you just made.

Abraham-Hicks say it best:  “Make a decision and then make the decision right. Line up your Energy with it. In most cases it doesn’t really matter what you decide. Just decide. There are endless options that would serve you enormously well, and all or any one of them is better than no decision.”

To line up your energy with the decision, find the positive aspects of it.  Focus on how it’s good for you or what you’ll get from it.

A couple months ago, when Tim and I found out about the US Census jobs that were available in our area, we talked about whether or not he should apply.  The job takes him away from the work we’re doing together and the vision we have for our future, but when we looked at the choice of not taking the job, it felt worse than taking it because at the moment, we need the money.

Once we made the decision, we both found the positive aspects of it.  I began talking about and focusing on how I’ll enjoy having some solitary time in the house.  Not that I don’t enjoy being with my husband—I do; but we’ve been working together at home for a long time, and I’ve missed having some peace and quiet to myself.  Tim began talking about and focusing on the new people he’ll meet and the new things he’ll learn.  He likes learning, and he’s a people person, so these things made him feel good. As a result, his job has been enjoyable to both of us, and it’s brought in even more money than we thought it would because he got a promotion within a week.

A Decision of My Own

Using this two-step process, I’ve made a decision about this blog.  Since I began writing it on January 1 of this year, I’ve posted daily.  I’ve enjoyed posting daily because the posts are my way of staying on track in my deliberate thought, law of attraction awareness journey.

Lately, though, the daily posts have become a bit of a strain because I have so many other things I want to do too.  When I looked at choice one—keep posting daily, it felt like a 7.  When I looked at choice two—back off to three or four times a week, it felt like a 9.  It’s the best of both worlds—I get to write posts but I get a bit more time to do other things.  I’m excited about that—so I’ve lined up with my decision.

Although running a decision past a friend or family member can be helpful because you often get ideas for choices you hadn’t thought of, ultimately, decisions must be yours.  You need to do what your guidance system recommends, not what someone else’s guidance system recommends.

When you listen to your guidance system and use your energy to align with whatever you choose, your decisions will always be right.

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