Since my last post, My Path Costs Less But Delivers More, I’ve been thinking a lot about experts. I believe we give too much power away to “experts.” We think they know the “facts,” and we have to listen to them in order to get what they have that we want too.
But facts having nothing to do with what we want. Facts are only the results of someone else’s desire and vibration.
Actress and writer Ruth Gordon said: “Never, never, never, under any circumstances, face facts.” Good advice.
Experts have their place, of course. They can teach us new skills. They can provide valuable information.
But an expert’s place isn’t in the driver’s seat of our experience. They need to be, at best, an instrument on our dash.
In the movie, Major League, one of the players on the Cleveland Indians baseball team, Pedro Cerrano, worships the voodoo god, Jobu. He needs Jobu’s help to hit a curveball. As Cerrano says, “Bats, they are sick. I cannot hit curveball. Straightball I hit it very much. Curveball, bats are afraid. I ask Jobu to come, take fear from bats. I offer him cigar, rum. He will come.”
Late in the movie, in the pivotal game near the end, Cerrano comes to bat. He’s been making offerings to Jobu for weeks, and he still can’t hit a curveball. He decides he’s done with Jobu. He says, “I stick up for you Jobu. You no help me now … I say fuck you Jobu. I do it myself!”
A couple days ago, I had my Jobu Moment, that moment when you say, uh, “To heck with you so-called expert or guru, I’ll do it myself.” I decided to follow my own good feelings and alignment to creating the success I want.
Five Reasons To Have A Jobu Moment
When is it time for you to have a Jobu Moment and listen to your own desire and intuition instead of someone else’s facts?
1. When the experts are draining your bank account
If you’re in a situation like I was in before I realized that my path costs less but delivers more, you may be throwing away money on books, audios, and training programs. I don’t care how “important” an expert’s information seems to be; it’s not important enough to deplete your finances for.
2. You’re following the experts’ advice, and you’re frustrated that it’s not working for you.
If you are doing what the expert says to do, and you’re not getting the promised results, this expert’s advice isn’t helping you. You’re not aligned with it. It worked for the expert, and for some of the people the expert teaches, because they are aligned with that path. You’re not. You’re especially not aligned with it if you’re frustrated. When you’re frustrated, you aren’t aligned with anything you want. Move on to the path that you are aligned with.
3. What the expert wants you to do doesn’t feel good to you.
When I was promoting my books, I spent over $3000 on a training program that promised to get your book on Amazon’s bestseller’s list. As I listened to the training calls, I became more and more uncomfortable. The actions they advised taking didn’t appeal to me at all. I knew I was going to have to force myself to do what they were teaching. Worse, not only did I not want to do it, it struck me as borderline unethical. Still, I’d paid good money for the program (which wasn’t refundable), so I kept at it … until I got very ill and then realized that to make the system work for me, I was going to have to spend another $2000 that I didn’t have to spend.
Truth was that I had a weird feeling about the program before I bought it, but I ignored my gut because the sales page promised such wonderful results. Never, ever, ever ignore your gut.
4. You are about to give up or you already have given up something you want because the expert says it isn’t possible.
I recently came across an “expert’s post in a Facebook writing group. The expert advised people to give up the idea of selling a novel to a big name publisher because “it just isn’t going to happen.”
I had to provide a different perspective. I commented that I sold to a big publisher, unagented, which is akin to winning a huge lottery. It CAN be done, I said. The “expert” responded that the reason I was saying that was because I sold a novel writing e-book. That was the farthest thing from my mind when I made my comment. I’ve simply been on the receiving end of “you can’t do that because …” too many times, and I wanted writers to hear what they could do instead of what they couldn’t do.
Never let an expert take away your desire. You can have anything you want. In fact, you already have it on a vibrational level. All you have to do is line up with it.
5. The expert’s success is based on people buying his or her advice
Many law of attraction experts who advise people how to get money have made their money selling advice to others on how to get money. Hmm. What’s wrong with this picture? Why should you listen to someone who has made their money from people like you who want money?
And in fact, why should you ever listen to any expert?
Four Reasons To Listen To An Expert
1. The expert’s advice lights you up.
The ideas the expert is teaching feel very good to you. You’re excited about the information. You’re enthusiastic about it.
When you feel this way, you’re vibrationally aligned, and when you’re vibrationally aligned, you’re attracting what you desire. Of course, you can get vibrationally aligned without listening to an expert, but if one feels good to you, go ahead and listen.
2. The expert emphasizes what you CAN do instead of what you CAN’T do.
If the expert is full of success stories and puts the emphasis on limitless possibility instead of dire warnings of doom, his or her information could be worth listening to.
3. The expert admits he/she doesn’t have all the answers but wants to share what worked for him or her.
This kind of expert understands that facts are relative, and that you can create your own facts. You can take the parts of this expert’s opinion that fit with your path and leave the rest.
4. The expert’s success had nothing to do with your buying his or her advice.
If the expert has accomplished what he or she is teaching independent of your buying his or her program, he or she has a story that could be worth hearing. Whenever you see evidence of someone else’s success it helps develop a belief system that lines up with your own success.
It took me several years and a lack of funds to figure out when I needed a Jobu Moment. How about you? Do you need a Jobu Moment?
Not that I’m an expert or anything … but maybe something in this post will help you keep your power instead of giving it away to an expert who isn’t helping you align with your desires.
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