There’s a restaurant north of where Tim and I live called The Ocean Crest. It’s an awesome place—incredible food, romantic atmosphere, attentive service, and a stunning view of the ocean through the veils of graceful hemlock tree branches. We love it, and we go there on special occasions whenever we have the financial means to do so.
We recently mentioned how much we love the place to a couple we know (I’ll call them Jack and Jill). Jill said, “Oh, we went there once. We think it’s highly overrated. The service was so slow.”
“My steak wasn’t done right,” Jack said.
“And it’s so expensive,” Jill said.
“The tables are too close together,” Jack said.
Tim and I moved on to another subject.
The fact is that Jack and Jill make some valid points. The service at The Ocean Crest is quite leisurely. The place is pricey. Once, Tim’s steak wasn’t cooked right. And the tables could be further apart.
So what?
Tim and I don’t talk about those things. We talk about those positive aspects I mentioned at the beginning of this post. And because that’s what we talk about, no matter what happens at that restaurant (slow service, overcooked steaks, etc.), we have an incredible time. We have nothing but delightful memories of our meals there.
We also have delightful memories of every restaurant we eat at. We’ve never had a bad restaurant experience.
This other couple has rarely had a good restaurant experience. One of their favorite topics is the lousy food, service, or atmosphere at restaurants. Tim has even asked me, “Why do they go out?”
This same couple tends to get bad service in stores and other businesses too. Tim and I rarely get bad service.
The other day, this couple was telling us about some surly service they got at a nearby home improvement store. Before they could go on about it, Tim said, “Whenever I get an unhelpful clerk, I ask them if they’re having a good day.”
“And I compliment them,” I said.
Tim and I never let the seeds of lousy service turn into a full-blown problem because we speak in positive aspects to everyone we deal with.
If a woman is being rude, I find something I like about her and compliment her on it. If someone is ignoring us, we start up a conversation, asking the person questions about him or herself (people LOVE to talk about themselves).
We look for things to say that make people feel good. And when we make people feel good, they make us feel good.
Some of our friends like to go on rampages of complaints about phone service—customer service people don’t speak decent English; they don’t have the right answers; they don’t listen … blah, blah, blah.
Tim and I don’t have these problems either. Usually, by the time we get off the phone, we’re on a first name basis with the person we’re talking to and we’ve found out where the person is, how the weather is, and we usually know whether or not the person is married and has kids or pets. We talk our way into great service almost 100 percent of the time.
Many students of law of attraction have a tendency to spend time tuning their vibration to attract wonderful things into their lives—visualizing and writing out positive aspects of their current situation, but they then forget to LIVE from this perspective all the time, in all of the little dealings and errands, in all of the minor, in passing conversations.
Abraham-Hicks say, “Every time you say, ‘I appreciate that. I really like that. I applaud that. I acknowledge the value in that.’ Every time you do that, you spend some of your Energy, and it is the spending of the Energy that creates a vacuum, so to speak, or an attraction, so to speak, that draws more and more and more and more.”
Every conversation you have, whether it’s with your spouse or with the clerk at the local convenience store, is an opportunity to raise your vibration and get in the Vortex. When you speak in positive aspects, you’re using ordinary conversation to create extraordinary experiences because the law of attraction will match that positive energy. Speaking in positive aspects aligns you with the kind of experiences you want to have.
Every compliment you give out draws a compliment to you. Every bit of interest you show to someone else will come back in someone’s interest in you.
Make people feel good, and you will feel good.
Nothing you encounter in the business world is worth complaining about. Nothing.
Every negative experience can be turned by speaking in positive aspects.
(If you missed them, be sure to read the first four parts of Power Chatter: Part 1—Talk On The Dark Side; Part 2—Mundane, Not; Part 3—Talk It Up, and Part 4—Talking Tone.)
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