The Secret Is Wags

Louis Oosthuizen.  Ever heard of him?

Most people haven’t.

Even my golf-obsessed husband hadn’t heard of him … until this weekend.

The British Open Golf Tournament started in Scotland on Thursday and ended today.  It’s a big deal in the golf world, one of the four “majors,” (most important tournaments), and at the start of the tournament, the golf world had its focus on the big players like Tiger Woods and Phil Mickelson.

Louis Oosthuizen (pronounced west-hi-zen—the Open announcers were so unfamiliar with him they didn’t get it right) didn’t care what the rest of the world was focused on.  He was focused on winning. (more…)

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You know the old saying … if you don’t have anything good to say, say nothing at all.

I’ve lived by that adage since my last post.

All I have to say now is that I’ll be delighted when my outer reality lines up with my inner one. (more…)

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If visualization (as most of us do it) doesn’t work?  What does?

Nine years ago, I created what author Sonia Choquette calls “an alchemy box.”  She used the “alchemy” term because alchemy, the medieval philosophy that asserted the possibility of changing base metals into gold, has come to stand for a magical process of transmuting anything.  So Choquette’s alchemy box is a place where you put images and representations of things that you want in order to manifest those things.

Sounds no different than visualization and manifestation boards, right?

Well, actually, it IS different.

When I made my box years ago, I wanted four main things:  to have a good amount of money in the bank (I could have been MUCH more specific), to be a size 10, to find and marry a loving man, and to be a published book author.

I put in the box some dollar bills and some play money, pictures of slender women, images of happy couples and a list of 116 qualities I wanted in the man I married, and three paperback novels on which I’d pasted my name over the top of the author’s name.

Choquette said to make your box something that pleased you, so I used a Winnie the Pooh hat box (I love all things Pooh).  I put the hat box on the floor in my bedroom, and didn’t look in it again until last year.

I pretty much forgot about it.

But within a year of creating that box, I inherited over $150,000 and my husband came into my life (my husband, who has 113 of the 116 qualities on my list).  Within a year after that, I was a size 10 (I was a size 22 at the time I made the box), and I had sold two books to major publishers and soon after went on to sell a third.

So was the box magic?

Don’t I wish.

No, the box wasn’t magic, but it has some major advantages (obviously) over visualization.  The box, you see, was a “desire heater.”

Install It And Forget It

Consider for a moment your water heater.  I bet you rarely think about your water heater, and that’s part of my point, but hang on a second and let me get there.

You or your contractor or your apartment building’s contractor or maintenance person installed your water heater.  That installation was a form of intention, an intention to heat the water in your house or apartment building.

Once the heater was installed, both the installer and you and everyone else forgot all about the water heater.  It was just there, heating the water, while you went about your business.

I think a box like the one I created nine years ago acts like a water heater.  Once you install it, so to speak, it just does its thing, holding your intention (like hot water) while you go about your business.

When I created the box, I was very excited about the idea of having the things I was representing in the box.  My HAVING vibration was activated.  Once I activated it, I didn’t keep looking in the box.  I just went about my business, doing what I needed to do on any given day.

Because I wasn’t trying to make myself think about what I wanted, I wasn’t accidentally activating the lack of it the way I did the last couple years when I tried so hard to visualize.  (And note that anytime we’re “trying hard” to do anything, we’re going against whatever it is we’re trying to do.)  Making the box activated my desire the way installing a water heater starts heating up the water.

IGNORING the box kept me in alignment with it.

I looked in the box last year when we did some remodeling and rearranging.  I’d forgotten all about what was in there, but everything that was in there DID happen in my life (some of it, the money and the size 10 body, went back out of my life, but that’s because I got out of alignment with it once I got it).

Manifesting is not really about manifesting.  It’s about being in a vibrational match with what we want.  Period.

It’s not about relentlessly focusing on what we want.  It’s about feeling good and feeling like we already have it.

The last few days, as I’ve walked in the woods with Ducky, instead of visualizing something I want like I used to, I’ve been walking through the woods feeling like the woods were mine and I was already living the life I want to live.  In other words, I haven’t been visualizing anything.  Most of my walk, I just stay present to the beauty of the woods and watching Ducky spring and race through the underbrush.  She has this jaunty little prance, and her back legs kind of swing from side to side.  I feel great when I watch her cute little butt sashay down the trail in front of me.  When I’m not thinking about the woods or Ducky, I think about the work I want to do during the day or about a movie I intend to watch or some other pretty innocuous thing that makes me feel good.

And I feel SO much better than I did when I visualized having things I don’t in physical reality have yet.

It is time, I’ve decided, to empty my old alchemy box an turn it into a desire heater.

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Twice a week, Tim goes to a nearby mini-mart and gets his lottery tickets. Notice I didn’t say he “buys” them because he hasn’t bought a ticket in weeks. He wins between $5 and $10 or more dollars every set of drawings and he uses the winnings to get the next batch of tickets.

Thursday, he was in the mini-mart, and the owner, with whom he’s become friendly, said, “Tim, you just keep winning!” Our state just got Powerball in January, and since Tim bought $2 worth of tickets the first drawing, he’s won every time. The store’s owner said she knows of only a couple other people who have won anything at all (even $1) on Powerball, and Tim wins every drawing!

Until a couple weeks ago, I was quite aware that he hasn’t won the big one yet (the one he KNOWS he’s going to win and in fact already feels like he’s won). But when I became more aware of my point of attraction, I shifted to start paying attention to how often he wins period.

Instead of looking at winning a lot, I started looking at winning. Just winning.

Yesterday, I came across a story about a woman named Renee Green from Bellevue, Washington. A week ago, she donated her entire tax refund to the Haiti fund. This week, she won $50,000 on a lottery scratch ticket.

This woman reminds me of Tim. We don’t have a tax refund to donate, but this woman’s donation shows that she had trust in the universe’s never ending stream of abundance. She felt no need to hang onto her $700 because she knew more was coming.

This is how Tim feels. He has no concerns about our apparent lack of funds because he knows more is coming. It’s nice to be married someone who has such a point of attraction (vibrational match) with abundance.

I’ve read many blog posts, articles, and other law of attraction materials chastising people for believing that they can attract a lottery win into their lives. The going belief seems to be that you can attract jobs and business opportunities and other career-oriented sources of money but not lottery wins. This has always baffled me. Why does money HAVE to come from jobs and career?

Abraham-Hicks address this in their book, Money and the Law of Attraction. They say that the reason most people only get money from jobs is because they THINK they can only get money from jobs and business.

But, Abraham-Hicks reminds us:

“We want you to hear – anything that you want – there is nothing off-limit. ANYTHING THAT YOU WANT !! All you got to do is conjure it until the conjured image dominates your vibration. And when the conjured image that pleases you dominates your vibration, everything in the universe will shift.  EVERYTHING will shift in order to help you to achieve the manifestation of this that you’ve conjured. IT IS LAW, it absolutely HAS to be. In fact, it is being in every moment of your experience. Everything that you are living is the perfect reflection of your vibrational countenance.”

So I’m excited about watching Tim keep winning and winning and winning. I’m putting my attention on the part I like, the winning. The amount right now is irrelevant. Tim has already won millions in his thoughts.

Even as he works in his office here in our home, in his mind, he is in Oregon now, living on our ocean-view acreage. He’s building virtual furniture in his virtual shop. He drives a virtual truck and plays virtual golf. He takes me on virtual trips in our virtual RV and gives big chunks of virtual money to our friends and to total strangers. He leaves virtual 50 % tips to food servers and spends time on the Internet looking for gifts he virtually buys for me (am I a lucky woman, or what?).

Bless my husband for not letting me pull him out of his virtual world when I was obsessing over what is. Tim is a winning guy. Who knows what he’ll win next.

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What’s the thing you do that keeps you cut off from source, that thing you do that creates resistance and throws you out of alignment with your nonphysical self?

Today’s Abraham-Hicks quote was:

“The amount of time it takes you to get from where you are to where you want to be, is only the amount of time it takes you to change the vibration within you. Instant manifestation could be yours if you could instantly change the vibration.”

In other words, if we wouldn’t do that thing we do that creates resistance in our vibration, we’d have what we want … now.

I keep doing that thing I do.

Here’s how it goes:

I decide I want something, and I clearly visualize the way I want it to be.

Law of attraction teachers spend a lot of time talking about visualization, and I think they overemphasize it. Because I’m all over visualization. I visualize all the time. And I rarely experience the things I visualize.

Why?

I think it has to do with that thing I do.

This week, I bid on a freelance writing job. I’ve been bidding on jobs for over a month now, and I’ve yet to land a job. I have 25 years of writing experience, and I’ve published three books, and hundreds of columns and short stories and articles and I can’t seem to land a freelance job. I thought it was because I was bidding too high.

So this week, a job came up that I really wanted. It was exactly the kind of writing I like to do, and I’ve done a lot of writing like it. The bidding range was $500 to $1000. Because I really wanted the job, I bid $545. I figured the only way I wouldn’t get the job was if I was underbid.

Today I found out that the job was awarded to TWO other writers, one of which bid $750 and one of which bid $625. I looked at their profiles to determine why they were chosen over me. In terms of experience, I match one of the writers and outdo the other. And I underbid them both. I would have done the same amount of work these two will do together for less than half of what the client will pay.

Okay, I’ll admit it. I was really, really disappointed.

I could feel the discord between what I want and where I am now.  I knew I was low on the Abraham-Hick’s emotional scale.

The law of attraction efficiently brought me more matching thoughts: lately, all my work has been rejected; maybe I’m not as good a writer as I thought I was; if I couldn’t get this job, how can I hope to get any others … etc., etc.

And there’s that thing I do. I’m calling it extrapolation.

I extrapolate from the one bit of bad news and smear it across the board to every other thing I’m working on.

After Ducky plays with her friend, Dixie, in the forest (which she got to do today for the first time in a week and a half), her feet are dark brown with mud. We bring her home and wash them off.

The clear water touches her feet and it’s no longer clear anymore. A little mud permeates the whole tub of water.

That is what linking one bad experience to every future experience does. I’m letting my current reaction muddy up my future endeavors.

I think this is what’s keeping me out of alignment, keeping me vibrating on a match to what I don’t want (rejection and not landing jobs and not enough money).

So I’m working on finding a better thought.

For example, today, I said to myself, “Perhaps this isn’t the best job for me. It only looked like it to me. But maybe the universe has something better in mind for me. Maybe the rejection had nothing to do with my ability or what’s coming to me next.”

Did this make me feel great?

No.

But it made me feel a little better.

And that’s all I need right now. As Abraham says, “A little better then a little better, then a little better.” You climb up the emotional scale.

Now that I’m aware of that thing I do, I’m working on doing something different. I’m working on finding a thought that disconnects the current disappointment from what is coming in the future.

How about you? Do you know about that thing you do? Are you learning to do it differently?

If you have something to share about this, please leave a comment. Sharing our wisdom on finding alignment helps us all.

Oh, and I’ve made a couple additions to the Law of Attraction Evidence page. And I’d love to get your comments about any evidence you’ve experienced.

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Right after I wrote my last post on Letting Go, I had a conversation with my friend, Melanie Greer Deason.  Melanie is a great distance healer (if you want to know how to get in touch with her, contact me and I’ll tell you how—she’s great!).  She’s also a very wise woman.

I told Melanie about how I was manifesting the little stuff but not the big stuff.

“I’m blocked from the money,” I said.

“Oh, don’t say that,” she admonished me.  “Your words have power.  If you say you’re blocked or think you’re blocked, you ARE blocked.”

Duh.  I KNEW that.  But there I was doing it anyway.

“Think of what’s between you and the money you want as a flimsy veil or curtain,” Melanie said, “something that’s obscuring your ability to see what you want but something you can easily move aside to get what you want.”

Of course!

Her words reminded me of something that happened last year.

In March, we bought a memory foam bed and put it on a wood platform Tim built.  It was a lousy bed, and in a couple months, it began breaking down.  We’d gotten it from Costco (I love Costco), so we returned it and got a new memory foam bed–different brand, and we love it.

When the Costco people came to take away the old bed, we discovered a huge moldy wet spot on the mattress and the platform underneath my side of the bed.  YUCK!

I’d been having hot flashes during those three months, and apparently my body heat had made the mattress sweat.  (I’ve since discovered Estroven—highly recommend it; no more hot flashes–if you’re interested, I get the best price at Costco.)

All that time, I’d been sleeping on this big moldy spot and had no idea.  It was right there, just a foot from my butt, and I couldn’t see it.

That incident reminded me that Abraham-Hicks says that 99.9 percent of what we want is completely created before we see evidence of it.  That’s because that much of the creation is done on the nonphysical plane.  So the money I want could be just like that wet, moldy spot—right there, just a foot from me!

Melanie’s right.  There is no block.  There’s just me not yet seeing what I want to see.  And I can choose to move aside the veil that separates me from what I want by deliberately focusing my thoughts on things that make me feel good!

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Yesterday, my friend, Kathy, and I spent a couple hours talking about the law of attraction and what we must do to align with what we want.  One of the aspects of creating your reality that we talked about was letting go of the outcome.

When I look at all the little things I’ve manifested (I just recently started keeping track of them, but literally hundreds of things have come before, including my husband and a bunch of glass fisherman’s floats), I KNOW I’m a powerful creator of my own reality.  I know that the law of attraction is as real as the law of gravity.

But when it comes to the big things, i.e. MONEY, I haven’t had as much luck.  Why?

Attachment.

When I think about little things that I want, I don’t HAVE TO HAVE them.  In fact, in some cases, I don’t even really want them.  I’m just thinking about them.  No attachment to them at all.

When I think about money, I’m totally attached to the outcome.  I really, really, really, really, really (you get the idea) want it.  I can’t honestly say, “Well, I’d really like enough money to continue to live in my home and have a financially free life,” and then say, “But if it doesn’t happen, it’s no big deal.”  It IS a big deal.  I WANT to have plenty of money.

And I think that’s the problem.  I want it too much.

The wanting so much is actually a misalignment.  It indicates that the wanting is more of a longing, which is a feeling of need combined with an acute awareness of the lack of what’s needed.

If I felt like I had all the money I needed, I’d be able to relax about it.  I’d be able to say, “I want more,” but if I don’t get it, it’s no big deal because I feel financially secure now.

That’s a toughie for me.

But I’m working on it.  Instead of letting myself think about what’s coming in 2 months (the reality of the money running out), I am thinking about what we’ll do when we have the financial abundance we want.  And I’m thinking about what I feel inspired to do today.

Today, the universe brought me evidence of the validity of this relaxation/letting go equals alignment theory.  I got easy support for one of the things I felt inspired to do today.  (I put it on the Law of Attraction Evidence page.)

So I’m working on letting go.  I’m working on finding the place of “I don’t have to have money because I feel like I already have it.”

The way I’m doing that is two-fold:

1. I’m following my interests.  If I inspired to do it (however illogical it may seem), I’m doing it.  If it doesn’t appeal to me, I’m not doing it.

2. I’m talking to whoever will listen to me about things that make me happy and what I’m planning to do with my financial freedom. The more I talk, the more financially free I feel.

It’s actually easy to let go when you can convince yourself that you already have what you want.

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I’ve decided to start a list of the little things I manifest by focusing on them or talking about them.  Instead of sticking these things in posts here and there, I’ve create a new page,  Law of Attraction Evidence, so I’ll have all these goodies on one page.

This is going to be a fun list to make.  And I’m sure it will help me continue to feel good.  If you’re noticing the little things you’re manifesting, please share them in the comments on the Law of Attraction Evidence page.  Let’s help each other see how well this create your reality stuff works!

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