The Secret Is Wags

Yesterday, in Power Chatter—Part Two: Mundane, Not, I suggested replacing mundane chatter with talk about something that makes you feel good.  Today, I’m going to raise the vibration on that a little further.

Better Than A Good Movie

For years, Tim and I have wanted to move to the southern Oregon coast and build an ocean view house on wooded acreage.  We’ve designed the house, on paper, and we’ve made lists of floor coverings, windows, appliances, etc.  We call it The Waggery.

When we first conceived of and designed this house, we were totally jazzed about it.  Looking at our plans and making our lists was better than watching a good movie.

Over time, though, we let ourselves get all bogged down in “what is,” and we talked more about our current surroundings than the ones we want to be in. (more…)

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When your “what is” story is the kind of ugly story that creates terror and panic, how do find a vibrational match to what you desire?

This is a question I asked up over and over until a few weeks ago, and it’s a question readers have asked me in a different form recently:  How do you eliminate the fear?

Short answer.  You don’t eliminate it.

Fear is not fact.

It’s an indicator. (more…)

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What’s the thing you do that keeps you cut off from source, that thing you do that creates resistance and throws you out of alignment with your nonphysical self?

Today’s Abraham-Hicks quote was:

“The amount of time it takes you to get from where you are to where you want to be, is only the amount of time it takes you to change the vibration within you. Instant manifestation could be yours if you could instantly change the vibration.”

In other words, if we wouldn’t do that thing we do that creates resistance in our vibration, we’d have what we want … now.

I keep doing that thing I do.

Here’s how it goes:

I decide I want something, and I clearly visualize the way I want it to be.

Law of attraction teachers spend a lot of time talking about visualization, and I think they overemphasize it. Because I’m all over visualization. I visualize all the time. And I rarely experience the things I visualize.

Why?

I think it has to do with that thing I do.

This week, I bid on a freelance writing job. I’ve been bidding on jobs for over a month now, and I’ve yet to land a job. I have 25 years of writing experience, and I’ve published three books, and hundreds of columns and short stories and articles and I can’t seem to land a freelance job. I thought it was because I was bidding too high.

So this week, a job came up that I really wanted. It was exactly the kind of writing I like to do, and I’ve done a lot of writing like it. The bidding range was $500 to $1000. Because I really wanted the job, I bid $545. I figured the only way I wouldn’t get the job was if I was underbid.

Today I found out that the job was awarded to TWO other writers, one of which bid $750 and one of which bid $625. I looked at their profiles to determine why they were chosen over me. In terms of experience, I match one of the writers and outdo the other. And I underbid them both. I would have done the same amount of work these two will do together for less than half of what the client will pay.

Okay, I’ll admit it. I was really, really disappointed.

I could feel the discord between what I want and where I am now.  I knew I was low on the Abraham-Hick’s emotional scale.

The law of attraction efficiently brought me more matching thoughts: lately, all my work has been rejected; maybe I’m not as good a writer as I thought I was; if I couldn’t get this job, how can I hope to get any others … etc., etc.

And there’s that thing I do. I’m calling it extrapolation.

I extrapolate from the one bit of bad news and smear it across the board to every other thing I’m working on.

After Ducky plays with her friend, Dixie, in the forest (which she got to do today for the first time in a week and a half), her feet are dark brown with mud. We bring her home and wash them off.

The clear water touches her feet and it’s no longer clear anymore. A little mud permeates the whole tub of water.

That is what linking one bad experience to every future experience does. I’m letting my current reaction muddy up my future endeavors.

I think this is what’s keeping me out of alignment, keeping me vibrating on a match to what I don’t want (rejection and not landing jobs and not enough money).

So I’m working on finding a better thought.

For example, today, I said to myself, “Perhaps this isn’t the best job for me. It only looked like it to me. But maybe the universe has something better in mind for me. Maybe the rejection had nothing to do with my ability or what’s coming to me next.”

Did this make me feel great?

No.

But it made me feel a little better.

And that’s all I need right now. As Abraham says, “A little better then a little better, then a little better.” You climb up the emotional scale.

Now that I’m aware of that thing I do, I’m working on doing something different. I’m working on finding a thought that disconnects the current disappointment from what is coming in the future.

How about you? Do you know about that thing you do? Are you learning to do it differently?

If you have something to share about this, please leave a comment. Sharing our wisdom on finding alignment helps us all.

Oh, and I’ve made a couple additions to the Law of Attraction Evidence page. And I’d love to get your comments about any evidence you’ve experienced.

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I’ve spent most of this week in my bedroom.  Hmm.

A couple years ago, I was stuck in my bedroom for six weeks, in bed because of a broken ankle, leg, etc. (I couldn’t walk at all).  I didn’t want to be in my bedroom then.

Now I can walk anywhere, but I’ve been cocooning in my bedroom.

It all started with the freelance stuff.

God, I’m a broken record.

I get up and walk with Tim and Ducky in the morning.  I come home and take a shower, and then I get in bed with my laptop.  I’m not just sitting in bed doing nothing—I’m doing freelance proposals and blogging, but I can’t seem to bring myself to leave the bedroom.

I feel safe in here.

Even though I’m doing things I don’t want to do, there’s something comforting about doing them in my cozy, warm bed with Ducky at my side.  Maybe the bedroom is the lollypop doctors give kids when they have to get a shot.

I have a very well-developed inner child.  She tends to throw tantrums.

She’s NOT happy right now.

Twenty five years of writing and working toward a goal, and she’s scrounging for low paying jobs.  Waaaaaahhhhh.

This morning, I was dusting, and I found the purple amethyst crystal I put in the supposed money area of my home (according to feng shui principles).  It’s been sitting there for seven years.  My inner child wanted to pick it up and hurl it through the bedroom window.

I’m pissed.

That’s better than despair.  (Abraham-Hicks tells you not to try and leap up the emotional scale from depressed or despair to joy).  I can feel the relief in pissed, but I don’t want to stay here.

Maybe cocooning is okay right now.  But I’d rather feel invigorated and excited.  I’d rather want to join the world.

Right now, though, I’m pissed at the world.  So I think I’ll stay where I am a little longer.

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