Think you can’t ignore something that’s right in front of your face?  Think again.

Last week, thanks to my reader, Mary, I watched a youtube yoga video that teaches breathing exercises and postures that help with weight loss.  Because it felt like inspired action to watch the video and because it felt easy and comfortable to write down the routine and plan to do it, I decided to start a short version of the routine.

One of the exercises in the routine is alternate nostril breathing.  This is something I used to do, and whether it helps with weight loss or not, I couldn’t say, but it is calming, and I wanted to get in the habit of doing it again.

In the interest of time-saving, I decided to do my alternate nostril breathing while I listen to cds or watch videos.  To remind myself to do this, I put a Post-it® index tab at the top of my laptop screen and on the top of the TV screen.

The first day, the tabs got my attention, and I was prompted to do the breathing.

After that, apparently Harry Potter or one of his friends got into my house because the tabs have become pretty much invisible.  Well, not really.  They’re still there.  But I don’t see them.

I can look right at them, and I don’t see them.

Although this isn’t all that helpful when it comes to reminding me to do my breathing exercise, it’s a great skill.  And it’s one I’m becoming rather good at.

Of the seventeen or so ours a day that I’m awake or conscious, I now spend less than an hour of it, maybe not even that, thinking about anything related to lack of money.  It’s like that reality has become a sticky index tab that I see right through.  The same thing is happening with my weight.  I’m becoming so good at ignoring my size that I can look in the mirror and not register what I’m seeing (even though in the past, it triggered a whole passel of negative feelings).

So what am I doing with all that extra time?  Mostly, I’m attending to what’s in front of me to do.  I’m also lingering on anything that makes me feel lucky.

Now, when I say lucky, I don’t mean lucky the way most people mean it—as experiencing something good that just happens to come along.  When I say lucky, I mean the true definition of it:  receiving good fortune, prosperity and success.

I Feel Lucky, Oh So Lucky

You know my penchant for making up singing ditties. “Happy happy day to me” now has to share time with “I feel lucky, oh so lucky, I feel lucky as lucky can be. I feel lucky, and great things happen to me.” This is to the tune of “I Feel Pretty” from West Side Story.

Seeing past unpleasant “what is”s allows me to feel lucky.  I have so much to feel lucky about.

There’s all the cool weather we’re having.  It’s 56 degrees outside.  Birds are twittering.  The branches of the lovely hemlocks that surround my house are swaying.

There’s Ducky.  There’s Tim.  (Don’t tell him he got second billing—it’s just that her joy is so pure.)

There’s this feeling I have that everything is on the verge of falling into place.

I feel lucky, oh so lucky.

And I don’t see anything that doesn’t feel that way.

And guess what’s come my way this last week?  Money.  Money is starting to flow in.  It’s a trickle.  But every flow starts with a trickle.

I recommend seeing the world through the eyes of luck, aka, a vibrational match to good things.  True luck isn’t random.  It’s a vibrational frequency of prosperity that the law of attraction responds to with prosperous experiences.  You can find that frequency when you learn to look right through any unwanted “what is.”

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The other day, my mother brought me the May 23 newspaper comics page so she could show me Classic Peanuts (I don’t subscribe to the paper).  In the strip, Snoopy sits in front of his dog bowl, his tongue hanging out.  He’s thinking, “Empty! And I’m dying of thirst.”

In the next frame, Snoopy carries his bowl in his mouth.  In the third frame, he sits in front of an outdoor faucet, his bowl in his mouth, holding it positioned under the faucet.  The next frame is identical.  The next frame, he looks away from the faucet with a worried expression.  In the next frame, he’s back to staring at the faucet, patiently holding his dish beneath it.

In the next frame, rain starts to fall.  In the next, the rain is heaver.  Snoopy still holds his bowl under the faucet.

In the next frame, he carries his bowl through the rain.  In the next frame, he drinks water from the bowl.  In the next frame, the rain stops, and he sits back.

In the final frame, he lies on top of his doghouse thinking, “That’s one I’m going to have to think about for awhile.”

Unlike Snoopy, I didn’t have to think about it for awhile.  I got it immediately.  It was the guidance I’ve been wanting.  Thank you, law of attraction.

A few days before Mom brought me that comic strip, I watched an Abraham-Hicks  DVD, Think And Be Slim. In the DVD, Abraham explains the process of using action to improve vibration.

Since they usually advise the opposite—use improved vibration to make action more effective—they got my attention with this process.  What they suggested was that if you wanted to do something like lose 50 pounds, for instance, you create a sort of balance sheet on which write what you want to have happen on the way to losing the 50 pounds.

For example, on the sheet, you’d have “lose 50 pounds” on the far right.  On the far left, you’d put some little action you feel like you could take now, like “drink more water.” You fill in the gaps between with various actions and milestones that will occur along the way to losing the 50 pounds.

They explain the process as it applies to debt as well.  They tell people to list all companies to which they owe money, and then they tell people to focus only on the first thing on the list.  You work on paying off the first debt and only that debt.  They said that when people do that, giving no thought to all the other debts, something always comes along to help clear those other debts.  They get an inheritance or a raise or win money or whatever.

As Abraham says, doing this one little thing “is all you can do, and it’s enough.”

Let’s look at that again:  “It’s all you can do, and it’s enough.”

This process didn’t create any big ahas for me with regard to debt.  Tim and I are paying into a fund that will be used to settle all our credit card debt over time, and it’s all we can do.  So far, it hasn’t been enough, or so it seems at this point.

But with regard to weight, the process appealed to me.  I made a list of things I wanted to do or have.  I want to get back to a point where I eat healthy like I know how to do, but I’m not there yet.  I want to get back to working out regularly, but I’m not there yet.

So what can I do?  I came up with two things:  I can use the chi machine regularly and I can dance five minutes a day. Little things, but it’s all I can do.

I started doing these things, and sure enough, just as Abraham promised, I felt a little better about my body.  Little actions.  Improved vibration.  Obviously that will lead me to something better then something better then something better.

But ….

On the subject of money, specifically creating the income I desire, I still didn’t get how this process would help me.

What is the little action I can take?  How is it enough?

Then Mom brought me that comic strip.  And there was the answer.

The Snoopy Method of Manifestation

Let’s look at what Snoopy did.

• Contrast (thirst) created a desire for water.
• Snoopy took a little action (carried his bowl to the faucet).
• Once he took the action, he waited in anticipation and expectation (stared at the faucet).
• He had a moment of doubt (that one frame of worry).
• He returned to expectation (looked back at the faucet).
• The universe brought him what he wanted (it started to rain).

Here’s are the two crucial aspects of the Snoopy process:

1. Snoopy only took ONE action.  When it didn’t immediately get results, he didn’t try anything else.
2. Snoopy’s original action didn’t result in him getting what he wanted.  The water didn’t come through the faucet. Rain brought the water. Snoopy could have stayed on top of his doghouse with his dish and waited for rain.

Why did this process work?  Because taking the action he took shifted Snoopy’s alignment.  It put him in a place of eager expectation of what he wanted.  The law of attraction did the rest. That improved vibrational alignment brought him what he desired.

The place that I’ve messed up with regard to money (and this is a mistake I’ve made over and over and over again) is at that moment of doubt.  Whereas Snoopy immediately redirected his attention to his expectation after that moment of doubt, I use doubt as an impetus to take more action.

If I’d been Snoopy in the comic strip, after that moment of doubt, I’d have started pounding on the faucet with my dish.  I’d have started pawing at it.  I’d have left the faucet and started running around looking for someone to turn on the faucet or fill my dish.  I would have barked and howled.  In other words, I would have started taking misaligned action.

This is what I’ve been doing for several months.

I took an inspired action last fall after I discovered my financial situation.  I took my water dish to the faucet (wrote a manuscript).

But water (money) didn’t come.  I panicked.

So I took more action (started another manuscript).  No water.

More action (looked for freelance work). No water.

More action (revamped my e-book program).  No water.

Last week, I was utterly enervated.  I had to struggle to do everything I did.

Now I know why.  My inner being wants me to cease and desist.

I’ve brought my bowl to the faucet.  I have a completed manuscript.  I have blogs.  I have an excellent e-book and audio program.  It’s time for me to stop and expect the universe to do the rest.

And the money I want may come from none of the actions I’ve taken.  I finally GET that (of course I’ve understood it from an intellectual standpoint, but for some reason, I haven’t integrated it into my experience).  I don’t need to look at what has or hasn’t happened with respect to the actions I’ve taken.  I don’t need to look at submission results or traffic to sites or sales or anything.  Those results don’t matter.  What matters is I’ve done what I can do.  And it’s enough.

And now it’s time to allow the universe to do the rest.

I’ve done all I can do, and it’s enough.

Snoopy understood that.  Now I do too.

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The photo is of my dog, Muggins, who passed away in October last year at 17 years old.  In the photo, she was 10 weeks old; she brought her empty water dish to me, dropped it in front of me, and planted her foot in it. She knew that was all the action she needed to take to get what she wanted.

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Lately, I’ve had to turn this into a mantra:  “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.  Focus on the feeling.”

When you’re finding reasons to feel good or looking for ways to feel like you already have what you want, either by using track changes or other visualizing methods, it’s ever so tempting to look for results.

We all love law of attraction results.  We love to hear those stories about how someone thought about something incredible and got it.  And of course, we all love to experience those results.

Almost daily, I remind myself that I manifested my husband.  I like remembering that I have the ability to deliberately flow vibrational energy toward a specific result and have the result appear in my life.

I’m discovering, however, because of a spate of unpleasant events recently, that too much focus on results can knock you off the alignment track. 

Week before last, Tim’s adoptive mother died (he was taken from his biological mother’s care, for reasons of neglect, when he was barely 2 years old).  Tim’s mother’s death wasn’t cause for grieving, in and of itself.  She had Alzheimer’s and had been unaware of the people in her life for some time; Tim and I both knew that she had moved on to pure positive energy, and for that, we were grateful. However, her death triggered feelings about an even greater loss for Tim—the loss of his childhood memories.  His head injury wiped out all memory of his parents and his history.  He doesn’t remember his mother at all. By the time he talked to her after his head injury, she didn’t remember him.  Her death brought up that loss for him.

I don’t think anyone who hasn’t been stripped of his past could understand what Tim has experienced.  We speak of it blithely, but being almost 50 years old with only 4 years of memories isn’t a picnic.

Still, Tim and I understand alignment, so after we got word of her death, we immediately set to work to move up the emotional scale.  I told him all the stories about his mother that I could remember him telling me before his head injury.  I told him that when we visited his parents six years ago, his mother repeatedly said (the Alzheimer’s was advanced even then), “Tim will always be my little boy.”  She loved him SO much, and Tim and I talked about that.

He felt better.  I felt better.

Then the big winds came.  We generally get high winds and rain October through March here on the coast … never in May.  But a big storm blew in the night Tim’s mother died.

We live on a heavily wooded half acre.  In the fourteen years I’ve been here, I’ve never lost a tree.  Trees get blown down in this area all the time, but not my trees.  I LOVE my trees.  I know they’re fine.  I am quite secure about my trees.

Even so, one on the most sheltered side of the house snapped in half the night Tim’s mother died, and the top fell into another tree and uprooted it, tipping the second tree precariously into others.

I was shocked.  I have PERFECT TREE ALIGNMENT.  How could that happen?

I took a breath and said, “At least they fell away from the house.”

And we called a tree removal service.  They said it would cost $850 to take the tipped tree down.  They might as well have said $8.5 million.

Using a hack saw and elbow grease, Tim cut up the top half of the tree that fell and now we’re just intending for the leaning tree to stay where it is.

The next day, a narrow rift appeared in the middle of my laptop screen.  I told myself it was just a little line.  It would be fine.

By the end of the day, it was a three inch rift. The next day, we had to drive 1 ½ hours each way to the nearest UPS store to send the computer back to the manufacturer for repair.

“Well, at least it’s under warranty,” I said.  And when my mother offered to let me use her laptop until mine was returned to me, I said, “Well, at least I have a computer to use in the meantime.”  And I said, “At least Tim had just backed up all my files.”

We were a bit buffeted at this point, but Tim and I reminded each other that the small stuff matters, and we kept appreciating and clicking, and we also talked about the trips we’ll take when we get the RV we want.

Then Thursday evening, the doorbell rang.  A process server handed us papers.  One of the credit card companies we owe money to is suing us.

I sat down and cried.

Tim said, “We’re fine.”

He was unmoved by recent events.  He knew they didn’t have anything to do with where we were going.  He still felt rich.  He still felt happy.

I, on the other hand, was pissed.

How can stuff like this happen when we spend so much time focusing on feeling good?

And that’s when I started chanting, “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.”

I remembered this Abraham-Hicks quote: “If you are predominantly focused on the RESULTS of your focused thoughts rather then FEELING your way within your thoughts, it is easy to lose your way.”

And this quote:

“We want YOU to be the reason you go into your vortex. And we want the reason to be because: It feels good. And I can.  … Every good feeling you have is for one reason and one reason only: You lined up with You just now.”

I knew that if I sat there and thought about the lousy results I was seeing in my life, my emotions about those results would flow like a line of falling dominoes and take me right to the bottom of the emotional scale and stay there.  I knew that I had to find reasons to feel good just for the sake of feeling good.

For right now, I can’t let myself think about the results I want in my life.  I can’t think about the money.  I have too much negative vibration on that subject because of the things that have been happening.

I need to just think about feeling good for feeling good’s sake.

I need to play with my pup.  I need to take long baths.  I need to remember how much my husband loves me.

It’s been three days since the process server came.  I don’t know yet what’s going to happen with that.  But I feel okay.

I’ve savored the sound of the rain on the roof, and I’ve laughed with friends.  I’ve inhaled one of my favorite scents, that happy-doggy-playing smell that dogs’ fur gets after they’ve been playing outside.  I’ve spent a lot of time with my eyes closed, using track changes revision to remember the last year as I wanted it to be.

And I keep chanting, “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.”

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Remember the 1985 Dire Straits song, “Money For Nothing”?  The song’s repetitive stream of conscious lyrics didn’t do much for me, but a line from the song popped into my head yesterday:  “Now that ain’t workin’ that’s the way you do it.”

On our anniversary, Tim and I talked a lot about money identities and working for money vs. aligning for money.  The line from that song kind of sums up the conclusions we reached.

For the week leading up to Tim’s and my anniversary, I’d been thinking a lot about Greg’s new money magnet status. Having reached a conclusion similar to mine—that you must have the identity of the person you want to be in order to become that person, Greg took on his new identity of a favored, successful businessman, and his “what is” reality has been matching that identity ever since.

I took on the identity of a successful writer, wife of a happy lottery winner, and my “what is” reality hasn’t shifted at all.  This has prompted me to blurt out the mental question, what’s up with that?

After a little pondering, I became aware of one important difference between Greg’s identity and mine.  His is an extension of someone he already is in his “what is” reality.  Mine is not.

Greg wants to have an abundance of money.  He wants a successful business.

Before he took on the identity of the successful businessman, he already had a business.  It’s the business he wants to do.  He isn’t doing it just to make ends meet or to keep him going until his real desire comes along.  It IS his desire to succeed with THIS business.

I, on the other hand, am not doing anything at all like what I want to be doing.  I haven’t done anything I truly wanted to do since I found out that we were in dire financial straits.  (Well, what do you think of that?  What are the odds that these words I just chose without thinking about them reflect the name of the group that sang the song I mentioned above? … I didn’t do it on purpose. Cue Twilight Zone theme.)

With the exception of this blog and The Joyful Springer, every action I’ve taken since last August 12 (the day my financial world fell apart), has been about “trying to find a way to keep us afloat.”

And how has that worked for me?

Well, we’re still afloat.  But barely.  And quite frankly, I want to do a lot more than keep my sputtering mouth above water.  In fact, I’d like to get out of the water and climb up onto a nice, comfy yacht, thank you very much.

In other words, my current “work” is not the work I would be doing if I was indeed being the woman I want to be.  With all respect to my coaching and editing clients, I wouldn’t be coaching or editing if I was who I wanted to be.  I wouldn’t be selling an informational product online if I was who I want to be.  I’ve taken all these actions as knee-jerk (possible emphasis on jerk) responses to my “what is” situation.  And in fact, I’ve been doing this for four years, since Tim’s head injury.  I embraced the “what is” reality that the publishing world moves too slowly to count on selling a book to make money, so instead of writing books, I tried to build a business I don’t want to do.

Unlike Greg, I don’t have a base upon which to build my desired identity.  In order to be that woman, I would walk away from the “logical” things I’m doing to attempt to create money (coaching and selling an e-book/audio package and doing freelance editing or ghostwriting) and instead do the wildly “illogical,” i.e. write what I want to write.  The illogical actions, but the ones that feel good, are to keep writing blogs that bring no income and work on my own projects, which, because of time constraints, have little hope of bringing me any money before our current funds run out.

Greg and I have actually exchanged e-mails about this topic, and we’d concluded that I need to “do what’s in front of me to do.”  I interpreted that as continuing with coaching etc., but I’ve become aware that whenever I’m doing that work, I’m acutely aware of the misalignment of it.  It doesn’t feel good, and try as I might, I can’t seem to find thoughts that truly move me up the emotional guidance scale.  Any thoughts I come up with feel more like smiley faces over the gas gauge sort of thoughts.

Doing Nothing

When Tim and I talked about this subject of money and identity and alignment, I asked him how he saw himself.  “What is your identity?” I asked.

He said, “I’m Hugh Grant in About A Boy. I do nothing.  My life is filled with units of time I fill with things I enjoy.”

“Even your job?” I asked.

He nodded.  “I’m not working because I have to.  I’m working because I knew it was important to you to see money coming in, even though I know we don’t need it because we have millions.”

If you haven’t seen About A Boy, Hugh Grant plays a man who lives off the royalties of a song his father wrote.  He does “nothing” except what he wants to do.  In the movie, he’s generally thought of as a worthless, mindless, immoral lazy bum for his lifestyle choice; but I can remember thinking, when I watched it the first time, and the next two times (I love the movie), “What’s so wrong with doing nothing?”

The idea that we must “work for a living” or, as many so-called law of attraction “experts” advise, “provide value” in order to receive money, is a belief system that’s been perpetuated by alignment with that belief system.  In other words, because we give our attention to the concept of working for money, it becomes our “what is” reality.

We think about getting a job to receive money.  We look for jobs.  We talk about selling and think about marketing.  And the law of attraction, as always, brings us a match to the things we’re thinking and talking about.  It brings us the “reality” that in order to get money, you have to earn it.

On Friday, in beautiful vibrational response to my wanting clarification on the subject of work and money, Karen posted an excerpt from her book, Soulsongs: “Free Money.”  She said, “… the Universe has countless plans up its sleeve for delivering abundance. Sometimes it’s through work, sometimes it’s a far cry from work. One thing is certain: the work that begets long-term prosperity will be work that consistently brings me joy.”

This last sentence brought up mixed emotions.  I agree with it, and yet, all the work I’ve done in joy in the last three years has brought me no money.  Only the work I’ve done because I feel like I have to do it has brought me a little money, emphasis on a little.

What gives?

Another part of Karen’s post may answer that question:  “Prosperity simply awaits me to regularly envision it, happily expect it, and then take easy action when opportunities arise. And when new income starts to trickle in – it can start this very day – I’ll appreciate and savor it, even if it’s a penny I find on the ground.”

Friday, I found a penny on the ground, and I didn’t savor it at all.  I’ve done little savoring of the “dribs and drabs” of money I’ve received in the last few years.  I’ve been too busy freaking out about how to get more.

And that, I believe, is why I haven’t received it.  Too much logical action.  Not enough savoring.

A Base of Identity

Since Tim’s and my conversation on Friday about Greg and his results and our identities, I’ve come to realize that my identity base IS in place.  I’m writing this blog and The Joyful Springer.  Now I just need to build on that.

Instead of busting my butt to promote my sites, as I’d planned, instead of seeking out new coaching business or more sales of my writing program, instead of looking for freelance work, starting today, I’m living the life of a successful author/wife of a millionaire.

Here are my “action steps.”

1. I’m writing what I’m moved to write without thought about how it’s going to bring me money.
2. I’m savoring all the money we currently have and every little penny that comes in.
3. I’m doing what I feel moved to do, even if what I feel moved to do is soak in the jetted tub for an hour in the middle of the day.

Once and for all, I’m committing myself to feeling (by embracing my new identity) my way to prosperity instead of working my way to it.

This is an act of faith not logic.  The biggest obstacle to my embracing this commitment before now, oddly, has been my beautifully aligned husband.  Because his millionaire reality isn’t our “what is” reality yet, I’ve used that “fact” as an indicator that doing nothing isn’t the fastest way to bring in funds.

But I can’t ignore all the messages I’m getting from my own guidance system, messages that tell me it’s time for me to stop doing things I think I must do and instead do things I want to do.

Money for nothing.

Actually, there’s no such thing.  It’s not money for nothing.  It’s money for alignment.

My new job is to become vibrationally aligned with prosperity.

What do you think?  Have I lost my mind or finally found it?

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First photo by dborman2 on Flickr.

Second photo by neoellium on Flickr.

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If you’ve been reading this blog for awhile, this post may give you a sense of déjà vu.  Been there, read that.

I’ve muddled around on this subject before, but I find I need to return to it.  This is, after all, a journey, and sometimes you retrace your steps when you’re on a journey.

Yesterday, I wrote about Greg, The Favored Cartographer.  Greg is one of two men who have become a catalyst for some conflicted emotions in me.  My husband, Tim, is the other one.

Is He The Guy or Not?

Greg is focusing his thought in ways that are similar to mine and Tim’s.  Like us, Greg has decided to be the person he wants to become.  He grasped the need to have it before he has it.  He made an “I am the guy” shift:  he became vibrationally the person he wants to be, and the universe is moving circumstances into place to bring him his desires.

I’ve been exhilarated watching the shift taking place in Greg’s life.  I’ve also been a little discouraged.

How is it, I find myself asking, that Greg made this “I am the guy” shift and turned things around in a matter of weeks and my husband, Tim, made his “I am the guy” shift and has yet to have experienced anything like the life he feels like he already has?

I’m baffled.

Of course, I know that my bafflement is also non-alignment.  I know that when I’m looking at the lack of something, I’m not vibrating on a match with what I want.  I know.

But I live with a man who has felt RICH for months and months.  I live with a man who feels like he has everything he wants.  In his mind, Tim is a multi-millionaire.

That is such a big leap for most of us—trying to feel like we have millions when we have pennies.  For Tim, however, it’s nothing.  Being a millionaire is as natural to him as being a dog lover is for me.

For Greg, getting big commission checks is natural.  He IS the man who rakes in the money in his sales work.  It’s who he is.  And he’s begun to live the physical result of that.

Tim, however, isn’t living the physical results yet.  He doesn’t care.

Here’s an example of the way Tim thinks.  Last weekend, we had to have our car jumpstarted when we left our friends’ house at the end of the evening.  Because we’d had problems with electrical systems in the car, we thought the alternator or other electrical issues might need work.  At the moment, we don’t have the money for that.  So on the way home, I was worried about the car.  Tim was quiet.  I asked him what he was thinking.  I expected him to say something about who he was going to call about the car in the morning.

Instead he said, “I was thinking about how great it is to play golf four times a week.  My scores will just keep improving.”

In our “what is” reality, Tim doesn’t play golf at all right now.  He hasn’t played since our finances blew up in August of last year.  But see what he’s doing with his thought?  He isn’t in the “what is” reality.  He’s in his multi-millionaire reality.  He is the guy.

Good for him.

I’m happy to be married to “the guy.”  But I’m the girl who’s shouting, “Show me the money!!!!!!”

Yeah, I know.  It’s not vibrational alignment with what I want.

I’ve been working on being the wife of a multi-millionaire, the bestselling author of the kind of novel I want to write.  Obviously, I haven’t made my own “I am the gal” shift.

Greg – 1 , Tim & Ande – 0

So how do I stop this score keeping?

Tim and I play Scrabble most Sunday afternoons.

He keeps score, and oddly, though he never keeps score of how his virtual reality is doing in relation to his “what is” reality, he cares a lot about scores in games and sports.  Tim likes to give me updates as we play.  I don’t care about them.  They don’t have any relevance to how I’m playing.  I don’t choose one word over the other based on the score.  I go all out to find the best-scoring word on every turn.  I don’t slack off just because I know I’m ahead, and I don’t try harder when I’m behind.

My effort is the same all the way through the game because the fun of the game for me is taking on the challenge of doing the best I can with the letters I have. It doesn’t matter whether Tim is getting incredible scores or not.  They have no impact on what I’m doing with my focus on the letters.

I think this might be a clue to how I can stop keeping score of vibrational alignment results.  If the results had no impact on what I’m doing, why would I care about the score?

Just as I go all out with every one of my Scrabble turns, I need to go all out with staying in the “I am the gal” place—the place where I have the freedom to write the novels I want to write and where my millionaire husband plays golf four times a week.  I need to enjoy “my turns” at finding joy and getting adept at “like it” instead of caring how well I’m doing or Tim is doing in relation to someone else like Greg.

Every time I look at Tim’s mindset in relation to his “what is” reality, I lose my own alignment.  I’m looking at what is instead of what Tim has already become vibrationally.

Abraham-Hicks remind us that we are vibrational beings.  Our physical senses to the contrary, we process our world via our energy vibrations, and our emotions are our vibrational indicators.  “They are the most sophisticated, supreme vibrational indicators,” Abraham-Hicks say. “And what they are indicating is the only thing that ever, ever, ever matters to you: they are indicating your relationship with YOU, which is the only thing that is any of your business.”

In Scrabble, the only thing that’s my business is what I’m going to do with the letters on my tray.  In life, the only thing that’s my business is how I feel in any given moment: do I feel like “the gal?”

I sure don’t when I’m keeping score of what others are doing.

So that’s my work for now—sticking my nose back in my own business.

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There’s petting a dog … and then there’s petting a dog.

If people are dismissing dogs, they give them a half-hearted pat on the head.  That kind of pat means, “Nice doggy [not really].  Now go away.”

People who really mean it when they pet dogs don’t just pat a dog on the head.  They rub a dog’s shoulders or belly or butt, scratch the ears or neck or chest.  Sincere petting is usually accompanied by kisses or happy talk too.  It’s genuine.

We humans don’t go around patting each other on the head or rubbing each others bellies (although the world would probably be a better place if we did).  BUT many people do the equivalent of the insincere head pat, and we’ve all been on the receiving end of it.

Tim, as I’ve said in previous posts, feels like a lottery winner.  His identity is Tim, The Multi-million Dollar Jackpot Winner.  He’s been moving toward this identity for some time.  He started with knowing he was going to win one day.  He moved on to thinking more and more about what it would be like to win.  And within the last few months, he’s become that winner, within.  He feels like he’s won.  He’s happy, secure, and relaxed.

Because he’s so comfortable in his identity, he often casually discusses the lottery with friends.  Some of our friends are matter of fact in their acceptance of his reality.  They know that we’ll soon have millions because Tim already has them on a vibrational level.

Others don’t see it that way.  Tim gets a lot of those verbal “pats on the head:”  nervous laughter accompanies comments like, “Sure, yeah, when you get those millions, be sure you give us some,” or “Uh huh, I’m going to win too,” or “Right, you’re the one who’s going to beat those gazillion to one odds.  Good luck with that.”

The other day, I was telling a friend that Tim got a job with the Census Bureau.  (He’s going to be working part to full time for about 10 weeks starting Friday.)  I told my friend that Tim and I had talked about how to keep his multi-millionaire identity while he does this job.

I wondered how Tim was going to pull that off, and Tim told me that he sees the job as an adventure, a way to do his “civic duty,” and meet some interesting people.  He’s chosen to look at the aspects of it that jive with his identity instead of seeing it as a job he has to have in order to keep us afloat awhile longer, which is our “what is” story.  Tim refuses to look at what is.  He’s firmly living in HIS story.

When my friend heard Tim’s perspective, she laughed in that way people laugh when they don’t agree with you and they want to lighten up what they’re about to say.  She said, “Well, yes, I know he wants to win a lottery, but I’m glad he got a job.  You know, law of attraction is one thing, but it really doesn’t apply to the lottery.  The lottery is just so …. “

“It’s so what?” I asked.

“Well, you don’t earn it.  It doesn’t, well, put anything good into the world.  So it’s, well ….” She trailed off.

“Unworthy?” I asked.

“Exactly,” she said.  “I mean I love Tim to pieces, but he needs to get realistic.”  Can’t you just see her patting him on the head?

In their book, Money and the Law of Attraction, Abraham fields a question about a woman who worked hard to support herself and her unemployed husband.  She struggled constantly, and he never worried about money at all and did little to contribute financially.  The woman and her husband divorced, and the now ex-husband inherited a million dollars.  The woman wanted him to share it with her because of all the years she struggled to support them.  He wouldn’t share.  The person asking Abraham the question says, “It doesn’t seem fair that she cared about money and worked hard for it and received so little, while he barely worked, didn’t seem to care about money, and has now inherited over a million dollars.  How can this be?”

Abraham answered:

“The woman worked hard, felt resentment, focused upon lack—and the Universe matched those feelings precisely.  Her husband felt ease, refused to feel guilty, expected things to come to him easily—and the Universe matched those feelings precisely.  Many believe that they must work hard, struggle, pay a price, and feel pain, and that they will then be rewarded for their struggle—but that is not consistent with the Laws of the Universe.  You cannot find a happy ending to an unhappy journey.  That defies Law.”

Fairness, as we define it in our society, and worthiness, as we see it, have nothing to do with what comes to us.  It’s vibration.  All of it.  Every bit of it.

Tim knows this.  He doesn’t care what others think about the lottery.  To him, it’s a flow of abundance that he has tapped into.  That simple.  Odds are irrelevant.  Questions of worthiness or ethics or fairness are irrelevant.

Tim decided to apply to the Census job because it sounded like fun. He was also aware that I don’t feel as rich as he does, and I would like to have more income in our “what is” reality.  He knows he doesn’t need to take care of my reality, but it makes him feel good, he says, to do something that brings me some peace of mind.  Interestingly, I had already found thoughts that brought me peace of mind before he applied for and got the job.

Is winning the lottery worthy?

Who cares?

Is selling fast food or junk food or cigarettes worthy?  Is someone who earns money selling weapons worthy of abundance?  Do athletes really deserve the millions they earn?

We can think ourselves into a mass of negative vibration if we try and sort out all the potential judgments to be made about how money can come into our lives.  And the truth is that none of it is wrong or right.  To repeat, it’s all vibration.  Every bit of it.

If someone pats you on the head and tells you that your idea or your identity isn’t worthy or it’s silly or it’s not realistic, do what Tim does:  wag your tail.  No, not literally, although that’s fine too.  Just smile and stay in YOUR reality.  It’s the one that matters.

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On Sunday, I wrote about how our story, the narrative we tell about what our life experiences mean, will determine what law of attraction brings to us.  Greg left a couple great comments about how he’s decided to make his new story “Greg Is Favored.”  Let me repeat:  This was just two days ago, on Sunday.

Today, Greg sent me an e-mail.  This is what it said:

“OK, I’m not making this up. Just went to my mailbox and there was a check in there for $3600.00 from the IRS. … Apparently my taxes were done wrong and I got a refund. OK, how many times does that happen to us?????? Also another check in there … from where my daughter is going to college to be a veterinarian … a check from the school to me for $239.00. I have no idea what that is for.   Don’t colleges take our money?  They don’t normally send money to me and send it to me with no notice, no explanation and that is that. You know what? I’M FAVORED!!!!!”

In less than two days, Greg has experienced his story.  Law of attraction brought him evidence of his story just that fast.

My story, “Ande Rocks,” hasn’t brought me any money, but the ideas for the work I’m doing are flowing beautifully.  So perhaps I need to expand my story title to “Ande Rocks … and Rolls In Money.” 

Have you updated your story yet?

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Twice a week, Tim goes to a nearby mini-mart and gets his lottery tickets. Notice I didn’t say he “buys” them because he hasn’t bought a ticket in weeks. He wins between $5 and $10 or more dollars every set of drawings and he uses the winnings to get the next batch of tickets.

Thursday, he was in the mini-mart, and the owner, with whom he’s become friendly, said, “Tim, you just keep winning!” Our state just got Powerball in January, and since Tim bought $2 worth of tickets the first drawing, he’s won every time. The store’s owner said she knows of only a couple other people who have won anything at all (even $1) on Powerball, and Tim wins every drawing!

Until a couple weeks ago, I was quite aware that he hasn’t won the big one yet (the one he KNOWS he’s going to win and in fact already feels like he’s won). But when I became more aware of my point of attraction, I shifted to start paying attention to how often he wins period.

Instead of looking at winning a lot, I started looking at winning. Just winning.

Yesterday, I came across a story about a woman named Renee Green from Bellevue, Washington. A week ago, she donated her entire tax refund to the Haiti fund. This week, she won $50,000 on a lottery scratch ticket.

This woman reminds me of Tim. We don’t have a tax refund to donate, but this woman’s donation shows that she had trust in the universe’s never ending stream of abundance. She felt no need to hang onto her $700 because she knew more was coming.

This is how Tim feels. He has no concerns about our apparent lack of funds because he knows more is coming. It’s nice to be married someone who has such a point of attraction (vibrational match) with abundance.

I’ve read many blog posts, articles, and other law of attraction materials chastising people for believing that they can attract a lottery win into their lives. The going belief seems to be that you can attract jobs and business opportunities and other career-oriented sources of money but not lottery wins. This has always baffled me. Why does money HAVE to come from jobs and career?

Abraham-Hicks address this in their book, Money and the Law of Attraction. They say that the reason most people only get money from jobs is because they THINK they can only get money from jobs and business.

But, Abraham-Hicks reminds us:

“We want you to hear – anything that you want – there is nothing off-limit. ANYTHING THAT YOU WANT !! All you got to do is conjure it until the conjured image dominates your vibration. And when the conjured image that pleases you dominates your vibration, everything in the universe will shift.  EVERYTHING will shift in order to help you to achieve the manifestation of this that you’ve conjured. IT IS LAW, it absolutely HAS to be. In fact, it is being in every moment of your experience. Everything that you are living is the perfect reflection of your vibrational countenance.”

So I’m excited about watching Tim keep winning and winning and winning. I’m putting my attention on the part I like, the winning. The amount right now is irrelevant. Tim has already won millions in his thoughts.

Even as he works in his office here in our home, in his mind, he is in Oregon now, living on our ocean-view acreage. He’s building virtual furniture in his virtual shop. He drives a virtual truck and plays virtual golf. He takes me on virtual trips in our virtual RV and gives big chunks of virtual money to our friends and to total strangers. He leaves virtual 50 % tips to food servers and spends time on the Internet looking for gifts he virtually buys for me (am I a lucky woman, or what?).

Bless my husband for not letting me pull him out of his virtual world when I was obsessing over what is. Tim is a winning guy. Who knows what he’ll win next.

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Getting what you want requires that you feel like you have it before you get it. This is the cornerstone of vibrational matching—creating an energy vibration within that matches the external thing or experience you want.

But, say what? I have to feel good before I get the thing that’s going to make me feel good?

For many, many months, I’ve struggled with how to do this. When finances are in the toilet, your body is a candidate for the Overweight and Out-of-shape Hall of Fame, your marriage needs some serious work, and your career has disappeared into a black hole, how in the name of all that’s good are you supposed to find a way to feel good before you feel good?

“There’s too much bad stuff for me to find the good stuff,” I’ve whined too many times to count.

And so, of course, I kept getting more bad stuff.

Abraham-Hicks says, “One who is mostly an observer thrives in good times but suffers in bad times because what he is observing is already vibrating, and as he observes it, he includes it in his vibrational countenance. As he includes it, the Universe accepts that as his point of attraction and gives him more of it. So the better it gets the better it gets. Or the worse it gets the worse it gets. While one who is a visionary thrives in all times.”

Even though I have a great imagination and have visualized my heart out, I am a World Class Observer. I may visualize; but in between, when I’m knocking about in the world, I’m looking at what is.

So obviously, when I look at the mess I’ve created, I keep getting more mess.

In the last couple weeks, I’ve started getting the hang of finding that speck of feel good in the big, bad, lousy, feel yucky pot of bean chili that is life.

I’m getting the hang of it because I’ve started seeing the power of it.

It’s like cayenne pepper vs. chili powder

When you make chili, if you want it to have enough flavor, you have to dump in a lot of chili powder. A teaspoon or two won’t do. You need a ¼ cup or so, maybe more in a big pot to get nice robust flavor.

Chili is like negative focus. It takes quite a bit of negative focus to create really big messes in life. You have to REALLY linger over worry, anger, or fear to get a nice flavorful pot of Lousy Stuff.

Now cayenne pepper is another story. It only takes a pinch of cayenne to make a BIG impact on a pot of chili. Cayenne is powerful stuff.

Cayenne is the feel good thoughts in life’s chili pot. It only takes a little bit of positive focus to start turning things around. And because cayenne is so potent, you only need to find one tiny little good thing to focus on for it to start having an impact on every aspect of your life.

I’m really starting to get this (I’ve been reading about it for years, but it takes my belief system and daily activities a while to catch up). I’ve been making it too hard.

I thought I had to get in a feeling place of being rich and thin and thrilled to pieces about my husband and totally successful in order to make changes in my life. All that, of course, in the glop I was in, was too much to do.

All I really have to do is find one thing to focus on that makes me feel good. One thing. (I guess Curly had it right in City Slickers—it really is about one thing.)

That one thing acts like cayenne and starts touching everything in my life.

I’ve been using my dog, Ducky, as my one thing. Ducky totally delights me. She makes me SMILE. And I’ve built on that one thing by creating a blog about Ducky and my last dog, Muggins, and all the other joyful dogs out there. The Joyful Springer has become my cayenne. When I’m tempted to look at all the other things that are wrong, I return my attention to Ducky and The Joyful Springer (sounds like a fairy tail, er, tale, doesn’t it?)

And things are getting better. I’ve manifested some money, some reduction in our debt, some new supportive friends. I’m enjoying my husband more, and he’s forgetting less than usual. I’m eating less food without trying to because I’m just feeling so much better. And my career? I’m not concerned. It will follow along in its own time.

The other night, Tim and I watched Brigadoon. There’s a great line in that movie: “… sunshine can peek through a wee hole.”

Good thoughts and the vibrational frequency that goes with them can poke through a wee hole too. It takes just that wee hole to allow alignment to start flowing between you and your nonphysical self, the self that already stands in vibrational alignment with all you desire.

I’ve started focusing on that wee hole. And I think the hole is getting bigger.

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I’m adding a couple more items to my Law Of Attraction Evidence list. The first is just a little thing, but it’s fun. The second is pretty exciting (at least to me):

Constellation Names (3/16/10)

A few nights ago, the sky was exceptionally clear, and Tim and I stood in our driveway and looked up at the stars together. It’s been so long since I learned the names of the constellations and I’ve forgotten most of what I learned. Tim, of course, has forgotten everything (he experienced a major memory wipe after a head injury in 2006, in case you haven’t read previous posts).

I managed to pick out the Big and Little Dippers but then I was lost. I said, “I need to read up on the constellations and relearn the names of all these clusters.”

Yesterday, we received the monthly newspaper put out by our local community club. One of the full page articles was about our clear night skies and the names of the constellations. Fun!

Debt Reduction (3/17/10)

Okay, I think this one is BIG and exciting! Yesterday, I wrote that I was relaxing about the creditor phone calls we get. I could feel I was releasing resistance about the debt we have.

Today, the debt consolidation company that’s handling our debt called and said that one of our card companies is settling a card with a $12,800 balance for $3500. The monthly amount we’ve been paying into a fund for these settlements will cover that settlement within the next few months. So we’ve lowered what we owe.

This is MAJOR! Sure, we still have a mountain of debt, BUT look at what’s shifted just a day after I found some relief on the subject of our debt.

Abraham-Hicks says that when you can find relief (feel a little better) on a subject, you’ll find a little more, then a little more, then a little more. And things will get better and better and better.

So I’m excited about what’s coming next!

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