The Secret Is Wags

A year ago today, my beloved 17 year old Springer Spaniel, Muggins, passed away.  When we left her lifeless body at the vet, I didn’t think I’d have the strength to draw another breath.  It was as if all the air in the universe had been sucked away.

Passage Through Grief

On this day a year ago, I felt sadness, grief, and despair of such intensity that all the words in the world can’t describe it.  “How do I get through the next minute?” I asked Tim through my tears. (more…)

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We all know that the first step to feeling good is getting easy with what is.  We must accept where we are if we want to move on from an unpleasant reality.

We know it.  But sometimes, it’s a bit of a challenge to do what we know we must do. (more…)

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When a whole lot of yucky things are going on in your life and you’ve sunk to the bottom of the emotional scale and you know you’re out of alignment with what you want, what can you do to feel better right this minute?

Abraham-Hicks teaches many processes that can help improve your emotional set point and thus your alignment, but sometimes things can get so overwhelming that it’s tough to summon up the oomph to do any of the processes.  Sometimes, visualizing and journaling and whatever else is just too much trouble.  And remember, if it doesn’t feel good, it’s not helping.

So what can you do when you feel this bad?

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Have you talked on the phone to someone you haven’t met and created a mental picture of the person based on his or her voice?

Years ago, I spoke on the phone with a woman who had what I thought was the sexiest female voice I’d ever encountered.  It was wonderfully rich, with a sexy timbre.  I was sure this woman had to be stunning.  When I finally met her face to face, I was shocked to meet a very large woman with a pock-marked complexion, stringy hair, and a Jimmy Durante-sized nose.  Mind you, none of these qualities are bad, but they just didn’t fit the voice.

For the last several years, I have been one of these mismatched people—not in terms of voice and appearance, but in terms of what I write vs. what I do and think.  To use an old cliché, I haven’t been walking my talk.

On this blog, and in other arenas, I’ve been writing about the law of attraction for many years.  I’ve been studying it even longer.

I KNOW this stuff … but I haven’t been consistently DOING this stuff.

You would think that finding reasons to feel good would be an easy thing to do.  You’d think that living in a virtual reality where your focus is on being the person you want to be would be a breeze.  Why wouldn’t you want to put your attention on thoughts that made you feel great? (more…)

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I’ve been trying to find my way through the nonphysical aspects of life for over 40 years, maybe for even longer.  My father used to tell me that when I was two years old, I would stare off into space with such a pensive expression that he was sure I was contemplating the meaning of life.

I entered college with the intention of taking pre-law courses—government, economics etc.  I was bored out of my mind by the end of my first semester, and I ended up spending the rest of my college years immersed in psychology, philosophy, and religion.  I still landed in law school, but the reasons for that is another story.

About a dozen years ago, I thought I’d figured out one important aspect of being a physical body in a world ordered by nonphysical energy that I still didn’t understand.  I thought I could find my way through life by following my intuition in conjunction with sychronicities and signs.  (more…)

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Lately, I’ve had to turn this into a mantra:  “The feeling, the feeling, the feeling.  Focus on the feeling.”

When you’re finding reasons to feel good or looking for ways to feel like you already have what you want, either by using track changes or other visualizing methods, it’s ever so tempting to look for results.

We all love law of attraction results.  We love to hear those stories about how someone thought about something incredible and got it.  And of course, we all love to experience those results.

Almost daily, I remind myself that I manifested my husband.  I like remembering that I have the ability to deliberately flow vibrational energy toward a specific result and have the result appear in my life.

I’m discovering, however, because of a spate of unpleasant events recently, that too much focus on results can knock you off the alignment track.  (more…)

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Yesterday, in Power Chatter—Part Two: Mundane, Not, I suggested replacing mundane chatter with talk about something that makes you feel good.  Today, I’m going to raise the vibration on that a little further.

Better Than A Good Movie

For years, Tim and I have wanted to move to the southern Oregon coast and build an ocean view house on wooded acreage.  We’ve designed the house, on paper, and we’ve made lists of floor coverings, windows, appliances, etc.  We call it The Waggery.

When we first conceived of and designed this house, we were totally jazzed about it.  Looking at our plans and making our lists was better than watching a good movie.

Over time, though, we let ourselves get all bogged down in “what is,” and we talked more about our current surroundings than the ones we want to be in. (more…)

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When I was in high school, I let a friend of mine talk me into watching Night of the Living Dead with her.  Images of relentless zombies assaulted me off and on for years afterwards.  Thanks, Mel.

Lately, I’ve been receiving Facebook page invites, Twitter messages, and e-mails that remind me a little of those undead drones.  Instead of Night of the Living Dead, it’s Weeks of the Hypnotists.

It’s my own fault.  A couple months ago, out of curiosity and not awareness of my alignment, I read a sales page about hypnosis audios.  The seller of the audios claimed that the audios would get your subconscious on board with a money mindset.

The seller was adamant that the reason law of attraction doesn’t seem to have a positive impact for most of us is that our subconscious minds are off chewing on all kinds of negative beliefs even while our conscious minds are focusing on what we desire.  I guess all that negative belief digestion causes a sort of energetic heartburn or gas that prevents vibrational alignment with desires. (more…)

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A few days ago, this Abraham-Hicks quote landed in my e-mail inbox:

“When you’re vibrating purely, you get only what’s a match to that. It’s your ambivalence: ‘I like that but I don’t like that… I like that but I don’t like that..’ that keeps what you like and what you don’t like coming at you all the time. You don’t have to ‘turn the other cheek’ when you are in vibrational harmony only with what you want. Then, only what you want comes.”

This isn’t new information, obviously.  I know noticing what I like brings me more of it and noticing what I don’t like brings me more of that.  For some reason, though, this statement immediately projected an image of a teeter-totter into my head, and as I moved through my days afterward, I became acutely aware of how my thoughts constantly shifted from likes to don’t likes and how the teeter-totter in my head popped up and down in sync with my shifting thoughts.The graphic visual spotlighted how much my thoughts go up and down, up and down, up and down.  Just in the short five-minute drive from our house to the forest where I walk Ducky, for instance, I watched my thoughts do something like this:

• The cherry blossoms in that yard are lovely. UP
• They need to pull some weeds. DOWN
• I’m glad they repaved this road. UP
• Why did they leave those pieces of asphalt piled up at the corners? DOWN
• That’s where the nice people who own the Mexican restaurant live.  UP
• They’ve left their garage door open—what a mess they have in there. DOWN
• It’s a nice mild day; no rain. UP
• The mosquitoes are going to be ferocious on the back trail. DOWN

It’s amazing I’m not in a state of perpetual motion sickness.

I’ve been paying attention to my emotional guidance system to help me monitor my thoughts, and I’ve been doing SO much better than I was even just a couple months ago.  No more panic and anxiety.  I’ve been feeling good.

But when I started paying attention, I saw how much I focus on things I don’t like.  I seem to attach a dislike to every like I come up with.

I’ve even done it with Ducky, my feel good touchstone:  Ducky makes me laugh, and she purely delights me, but I sure wish she wouldn’t bring in sticks and tear them into pieces to leave on my rug.

Remember being on a teeter-totter when you were a kid?  You needed someone of somewhat equivalent weight on the other side so you could consistently pop up and down.

When I was in grade school, one of my classmates was an extremely fat girl.  Most of the kids wouldn’t play with her, so I did.  One day, she and I settled onto the teeter-totter, not thinking about how the difference in our weights was going to impact our fun.  I was a skinny kid.  She was huge.  I straddled my end.  She got on and sat down.  I shot up in the air so fast I nearly fell off.

No matter how hard she tried to push off the ground to pop up in the air herself, she couldn’t do it.  I was stuck up in the air until one of my friends came over and hung on to my end to lower it down.

Teeter-Totter Thought

The high end of the teeter-totter is our focus on likes.  The things that please us allow us to push off and fly into the air.  The things that don’t please us are the push-offs on the other end of the teeter-totter that send us back to earth.  Most of us have as many dislikes as we have likes, so the balance of our thought is half up and half down.

The law of attraction matches our experience with the balance of our thoughts.  If we’re half up and half down, no wonder we get so many things we don’t like in our lives.  We go up, and great things happen.  We go down, and lousy things happen.  Our experiences teeter-totter in perfect rhythm with our thought vibration.

What we need, I’ve decided, is a nice fat focus on likes that is so big and so heavy that it catapults us into the air and leaves us there.  That “up” position on the teeter-totter is Abraham-Hicks’ vortex.  It’s vibrational alignment with all we desire.

I know you’ve had times in your life when something you like SO commands your attention that you don’t even notice negative things.  Falling in love comes to mind.  Christmas morning, a major win in sports, landing a big job, winning money—these are all such big, heavy likes that they fire us into the air and leave us there for a time.

But how can we focus on something that feels that good when nothing that good is happening in our “what is” reality?

We can either get so adept at visualizing from a place of “I already have what I want” that we feel like we’re focusing on something good that already exists OR we can focus on so many little likes that they glom onto each other and form a big heavy blob of positive energy that acts the same way a single, heavy focus does.

I’m still working on visualizing from the place of “I already have what I want.”  I’m playing with a new visualizing technique that I’ll report on when I have a little  more practice with it.  In the meantime, though, I’m finding that just being aware of the thought teeter totter is making it possible for me to consciously look at more likes than dislikes.

Just over the last day or so, I’ve begun to see all this little likes come together to create a fat focus that is starting to weigh down the other end of my teeter-totter so I’m up in the air more often.  It’s pretty fun to feel that high (excuse the pun).

Are you aware of how much your thoughts are teetering up and down?  Pay attention.  You may need to create your own “fat focus” to raise you up.

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Yesterday, Greg, made some great comments about fear on the post, Still Complaint Free (Mostly). He quoted author, Guy Finley’s discussion of the way we embrace fear and make it our friend, thus allowing its power to unplug us from the divine energy that is meant to flow through us.

I had a realization when I read Greg’s comment.  I discovered that I am no longer fearful.

When I started this blog at the beginning of the year, I was terrified. I truly thought I was on the verge of losing my house and my way of life.  I had no idea how I’d get the money I needed to keep us going after the first of March.

I started this blog as a way to process my intention to find alignment with my nonphysical self, the part of me who knows everything is just fine and in fact has everything and is living everything, on a vibrational level, that I desire.

In the past few weeks, I have experienced huge shifts in the way I feel, and more positive experiences are flowing my way as a result.

We’ve received enough money, from writing coaching fees, a loan from my parents, and some blog donations, to keep us afloat into June. And am I afraid of what will happen after that?  Amazingly, no.  I know something will fall into place.  I don’t know what that something will be, but I know we’ll be okay.

So this is good.  I’m no longer fearful.

But …..

Yesterday evening, I was rushing to finish up some work so I could join Tim in the kitchen to fix our dinner, and I noticed I was tense.  When I got to the kitchen (it was about 7:30), I said to Tim (in keeping with our no complain rule, I was careful with how I chose my words), “I want to have a lifestyle where I can work at a comfortable pace and stop for the day before 6 p.m.  I want to work on my books, and I want to draw.  I have no interest in being a ghostwriter or marketer or writing coach.”

I really did try to keep my tone light, but my eyes filled with tears.  Why was I crying?

What was I feeling?

I stopped and checked in and discovered I was angry.  Very, very angry.

I am no longer fearful, but I’m angry about having to do the work I’m doing.  I am back in the internet marketing world, a world I deliberately walked away from at the end of 2007.  I am revamping websites, trying to drive traffic to a site, redoing sales pages, creating sales videos … all the things I consciously left behind because I didn’t enjoy them.

And now I’m pissed.  Really pissed.

How did I get back here?  Why didn’t our plans work out?

Okay, this doesn’t sound good, does it?  Doesn’t sound like vibrational alignment.

And it isn’t.  But it’s an improvement.

I’ve gone from fear to anger.  I’ve moved up some on the emotional scale.

The Emotional Scale

Abraham-Hicks’ emotional guidance scale, from the book Ask and It is Given, looks like this:

• Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
• Passion
• Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
• Positive Expectation/Belief
• Optimism
• Hopefulness
• Contentment
• Boredom
• Pessimism
• Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
• Overwhelment
• Disappointment
• Doubt
• Worry
• Blame
• Discouragement
• Anger
• Revenge
• Hatred/Rage
• Jealousy
• Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
• Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

As you can see, anger is five rungs above fear, so I’m moving up.

Abraham talks often about finding relief a little bit at a time.  It’s inadvisable, they say, to try to vault from fear to joy.  Any time you can improve your emotions just a little, you’re moving into alignment.

I have spent a lot of time at the top of the scale lately.  I get these peeks at appreciation and love and joy more and more throughout my days. But sometimes, when I look too much at what is, I slip down again.

I’m not slipping all the way to fear, though, and I call that a victory, especially given the precarious “facts” of our situation.

Those facts don’t concern me anymore.

Choosing Better Feeling Thoughts

I’m creating a new story, and my anger has shown me I’m experiencing contrast that is spurring me to be even more specific in my story.

So since I won’t complain (whining about the work I’m doing would be my old pattern, but whining is just squeaky complaining, so I can’t do that), I need to choose new thoughts.  Here I go:

Although the work I’m doing right now isn’t my first choice, I’m grateful for the contrast it’s providing, contrast that’s showing me what I really want to do.  I know I hated this type of work in the past, but I could choose to find something good about it now.  I could clean up my vibration about internet marketing and find the fun in it.  I am enjoying the networking I’ve been doing on Facebook and Twitter.  I hadn’t expected that to be fun and yet it is, so maybe internet marketing can be fun too.

Going back through my e-book has given me a sense of accomplishment because I’m remembering just how much good information is in the book, and that is giving me more confidence to sell it.

The better I feel about the work I’m doing, the faster I’ll get to the work I really want to do.  So I’m going to find the positive aspects of this work.

One of the best positive aspects is that Ducky gets to hang out with me while I work and I can pet her as much as I want.  That feels really good.  I think I’ll just focus on that for awhile.  I can’t feel anger and focus on Ducky at the same time (except when she steals food off the counter; but that’s another story).

And just like that, I’m all the way up to contentment.

And moving on up ….

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