How To Always Get What You Want
Yesterday, Bea left a great comment that raised an excellent question. She said, “I was wondering how to feel good when nothing seems to be working out as desired or wanted or dreamed in life.” I offered one way of doing this in my last post, but now I’m going to simplify it even more.
Notice that in Bea’s question, she makes a connection that we all make—or at least it’s one that I’ve always made. She connects naturally feeling good to having things the way we want them to be.
It’s a reasonable connection. Of course we feel good when things are working out the way we want to them to.
So how can we always have things work the way we want them to?
Do we have to visualize and focus on what we want and meditate and have a manifestation board and write dream journals? Sure, we can do all of those things. And they can move us toward more of what we want. But they won’t make it so we always get what we want.
The truth is no matter how good we are at deliberate creating, i.e., finding the feeling place of having what we want, we will never be able to get the whole world to conform to our desires. Unless …
One Word Changes Everything
A couple days ago, I read a wonderful audio transcript at Heather Macauley’s site, www.aspaceoflove.com, called “The Silent Language of Peace.” Macauley’s ideas aren’t new—they’re all concepts Abraham-Hicks teaches, but her wording worked just right for me. The law of attraction brought me just the right information at just the right time.
Macauley reminded me of the one word that allowed me to have all I want right now:
OKAY
She advises looking at every problem, every unwanted thing or person or circumstance in your life and saying, “It’s okay.”
We need to make it okay that what we have is what we have. We need to make it okay that we are as we are, that circumstances are as they are.
Once we say it’s okay, we’re no longer resisting it, no longer pushing against it. Once we say it’s okay, we release enough energy to find some part of “what is” that is TRULY okay.
By using “okay” to describe whatever is going on, we’re making everything something we want. In one instant, we go from lamenting the fact that we aren’t getting our desires to celebrating how absolutely fine everything is. We’re doing what we want not because we’re trying to manipulate events to be something we want but because we’re shifting our thoughts to wanting events the way they are.
Here’s the way Abraham explains it:
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Just in the last 48 hours, since I started using the word, “okay,” over and over and over again, my attitude about my life has changed. I can feel the relief, feel the resistance falling away.
So here’s the ten second process of getting what you want:
1. Say it’s okay that things are as they are.
2. Because it’s okay, you can relax enough to find the good in the way things are.
3. Because you can find the good, you have what you want (underlying every desire is the belief that having that desire will make you feel good—so what you really want is to feel good).
And presto! You have what you want all the time!
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Tags: Abraham, Abraham-Hicks, Acceptance, deliberate creation, get what you want
August 26th, 2010 at 9:35 am
Great Post. Saying OK is the start for sure. Embracing where you are is soo important. No judgement, just embracing the present.
Lately I have been learning that at the center of all faith and believing is Identity. Its kinda like when you are in love, you love the other person but you really love that you are in love. You dont really want the house on the hill near the ocean, you want to be the person with the house on the hill near the ocean. Sounds like an insignificant distinction but when you look at things this way, you dont get caught up in things. You get to the center of things which is always identity. Then I started to learn that like the Oak tree that is already in the acorn, The identity of me that I want it already created, I just have to embody it and it will come forth just like the Oak tree from the acorn. Just plant the seed, and release it. Dont go digging up the seed to check on its growth. God will do the growing.
What I am looking for is what I already am. The world has nothing to give me, it only shows me what I give myself.
Greg T
August 26th, 2010 at 10:09 am
You’ve worded it so well, as usual, Ande. As we make peace with where we are, more good ever unfolds for us. But we want to have a certain degree of “OK-ness” with here and now. Happy with where we are and eager for more — the perfect platform for creation.
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August 26th, 2010 at 6:19 pm
Thanks, Karen. I appreciate your comment, as always! Happy and eager is right.
August 26th, 2010 at 6:21 pm
Very well said, Greg. That’s why being in the okay place is so important–it’s what gives you the faith not to dig up the seed, I think.
August 30th, 2010 at 5:14 am
That’s absolutely correct. OKAY does wonders. In everything happnes to us there are always two side for it. When it happens the way we wishes it to happen then this brings us satisfaction, we may not say OK. So we go with it. If it happens otherwise, then some dissatisfaction build up inside of us and we consider what happened is not good because it does not match with our wishes and desires. However, if we look to both cases, we still can’t judge both of them. Sometimes not getting what you want is better for you than getting it. Look at it this way, you missed a plane that will take you to the opportunity of your life. What happened and you found out later that this plane you missed and you felt sad for it, was crashed and all passengers were dead in fire. How would you feel now???
August 30th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
Thanks for your comment, Omar. Nice to have you join the discussion. You make a very good point. Since we never truly know if something is bad or good until it plays out, why not be okay with it from the beginning?
August 30th, 2010 at 10:48 pm
This is such a well worded post to read. It made me feel happy and powerful inside. I was feeling “Of course I can say OK to the way things are”
But I did not grasp ths power of that one little word till I actually closed my eyes and appended “OK” to some situations in my life right now.
It felt right.
I know that as I practice with being OK with where I am right this moment, I will allow different feeling to surface. And all of them, whatever they may feel like will all be OK too.
This word feels like receiving a gift, Ande. A gift much appreciated and loved. Thank you so much.
August 31st, 2010 at 9:22 am
I’m so happy that it has brought you relief, Bea. Thank you for your comment! I have found that each day I say, “This is okay,” it gets easier to really, really mean it. And when I’m a little iffy about it, I ask if I’m WILLING for it to be okay. Well, of course, I’m willing. And if I’m willing, then all I have to do is relax and let the universe take me the rest of the way to okay. It has brought me a peace of mind that I haven’t had in a very long time.