Does It Have To Get Bad Before It Gets Good?
In the last couple months, I’ve heard, from many sources, the idea that sometimes things have to get bad before they can get good. Some law of attraction teachers suggest that the universe has to create things that you perceive as bad in order to lead you to where you want to be.
You have to hit bottom before you can go up. You need to have it all fall apart before you put it back together. You have to have a storm before you get a rainbow.
I don’t buy it.
I believe in a universe managed by the law of attraction you can go from one good experience to the next. I think this universe can get you where you want to be without taking you through experiences that you find unpleasant.
I don’t think you have to get fired to get a better job. Heck, I don’t even think you have to have a job to have financial abundance.
I don’t think your house has to burn down in order to be led to the perfect place to live.
I don’t think you have to go through a nasty break-up to find Mr. or Mrs. Right.
I don’t think you have to get sick before you can appreciate your life.
So why do good things often come from bad things?
I think great things grow from awful things because those awful things provide such clear contrast that they allow us to fire off a rocket of desire so pure and powerful that it’s a COME HERE NOW frequency that the law of attraction must respond to. Does that mean you have to have that kind of extreme contrast to finally get on the same frequency as what you want?
I don’t think so.
I think the idea that it has to be hard before it’s easy is just an old belief that we like to pass around. I think that we can make it as easy as we want it to be, but we stay in old grooves that make it hard.
Ours is an energetic journey, a thought journey, but because we have the THOUGHT that struggle and action is necessary, we create that struggle and need for action before we get where we want to go. We create it with the belief that it’s needed.
I’d like to hear your thoughts this subject. Do you believe that it has to get bad before it can get good?
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Tags: bad things lead to good things, Beliefs, Law of Attraction
August 3rd, 2010 at 10:05 pm
Ande…. I want to believe all this so much.
Though I have had experiences with having good attract good and more good, there have also been moments that act as spokes affecting my belief system. They seem to hamper my smooth flow.
How do I turn around during these times? Sometimes I am so angry and hurt that all I want to do is throw something and howl. Well this does not make things better, but it is momentary venting and later a feeling of a total lack of control.
Whew!!!! that is too much negative…but it is out.
Now, even in these bleak moments I am going to choose allow good thoughts to flow… I wonder how hard it is going to be? But i am sure it will be well worth it.
Thanks for you lovely posts. I love to read the LOA thoughts woven into real life incidents. Love looking thru pics of Ducky, he seems such a joy to be around.
Wish you well
August 4th, 2010 at 12:18 am
Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom….Never used to know what that meant but I do now. Those that finally get to the place where the let go, they cease with the hubris and let the humility in, they stop trying to take and start receiving… Pride goeth before the fall.
Sometimes it takes life whacking us around till we see for ourselves that we have not been allowing but demanding, we have been seducing instead of really loving.. I dont think its a bad thing, just contrast. Without it, we would never know how good we have it.
Greg T
August 4th, 2010 at 10:35 am
I agree that the contrast does put us in the place of asking and eventually allowing. I also believe we can get to a point of allow, allow, allow, i.e. notice contrast and then allow instead of attracting into our lives severely negative (by pretty much anyone’s definition) experiences and THEN allowing.
August 4th, 2010 at 10:38 am
I think that venting you’re talking about is maybe what lets us move up the emotional scale, Bea. And all we can do is keep choosing the better thoughts. And I believe that the better we get at doing that the better our experiences will be so that we don’t need things to fall apart completely before they get good. I’m so glad you enjoy the posts and pictures of Ducky. She truly is the living embodiment of joy and being in the Vortex.
August 4th, 2010 at 11:49 am
Isn’t it possible that it totally depends on the individual? I suspect there are those who need to see the contrast to appreciate that there is something better out there somewhere, or that where you are is not so bad after all. They need the shock of “hitting bottom” before understanding the need to surface again. I had to move through a series of jobs before recognizing that I needed to be back with the organization that I started with out here ten years ago. I’m back with them now and am a very happy camper. But when I left them in 2004, I couldn’t wait to go out and experience the big bad world. I also suspect there is the other side of the spectrum where some just swing merrily through life without the need to experience the negative to appreciate the positive. Human beings are such complicated and diverse creatures; but isn’t that what makes life fun
August 4th, 2010 at 12:01 pm
I appreciate folks’ thought-provoking comments.
I concur with you, Ande. No, it doesn’t HAVE to become awful before we find our footing and learn to manage our focus and thus our vibration, even though that’s the extreme way it happens for many people. But it’s certainly not necessary.
Contrast, which includes all sorts of circumstances we do not want, is indeed essential in helping us launch rockets of desire, but I think there are plenty of instances of contrast all around us that serve us well. They do not have to be present in our own experience in order to benefit us.
I agree with your words: “I believe in a universe managed by the law of attraction you can go from one good experience to the next. I think this universe can get you where you want to be without taking you through experiences that you find unpleasant.”
It just takes regular practice in focusing on where we want to go and not on the opposite.
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August 4th, 2010 at 4:08 pm
Exactly, Nancy. I totally agree. I think the notion that things HAVE to get bad before they get good comes from people who have always had it that way. But I do believe there are people who are in such alignment that they, as you so beautifully put it, “swing merrily through life” going from one good thing to the next.
August 4th, 2010 at 4:10 pm
Very good point, Karen, that the contrast that allows us to shoot rockets of desire doesn’t have to be in our own experience. We’re surrounded by contrast, as you say. I sure don’t need to experience chaos to know I prefer peace and quiet. And you’re right–it’s the regular practice of focusing that allows us to move from pleasant experience to pleasant experience.
August 5th, 2010 at 3:10 pm
Hi Ande – I agree that it doesn’t HAVE to be this way. But sometimes it is. For example, i was ready to move into a new level in my career and my health fell apart. I’d been getting nudges to sort out my health for a while (which I was ignoring because I was focusing on moving to a new level in my career!). I believe that my health HAD to fall apart so i could get it sorted so I could move to a new level. It didn’t have to be this way if I’d been acting on those nudges, but it did happen this way. I think it can happen both ways – it just depends on how big the changes are and how much you’re listening to your guidance.
I also believe that when you really live this stuff, you don’t see ‘bad’ things as bad so you sail on calmly while the sea rages around you (as my teacher Carole Dore has it “thumb your nose at the 3rd dimension!”). You just don’t give them any importance so people look at you and see you sailing easily through life – it’s not that bad things don’t ever happen to you, it’s just that you don’t afford them any importance.
I have started to do this with ‘small’ bad things, and it just cracks me up. I got a ticket for running a red light, which I would normally react badly to, but I just shrugged my shoulders, told myself the money would come in from somewhere, which it did, and that every time I spend money it returns to me multiplied…so I ended up grinning at the idea that paying my fine would be good! This is a TOTAL about face for me! Lol.
Donna.x
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August 6th, 2010 at 12:49 pm
You’re right, Donna, that it depends so much on how attuned we are to guidance. Your health story reminded me of the way Caroline Myss describes this process: You keep talking about getting a new job and your angel, who’s been sitting on the sofa smoking a cigarette for years because you don’t listen to word she says, detects some new resolve in your voice. So she stubs out her cigarette, leans forward and says, are you serious? Are you really serious? Do you really want a new job? You keep thinking about a new job, so your angel goes to work, and boom, you’re fired.
Her description always cracked me up. I never saw my nonphysical being as smoking a cigarette, but I think she has probably had the time to knit about a million virtual sweaters in all the time I’ve ignored her over the years. 
I love the story about the traffic light. That’s the kind of thing I’m working on too, and I”m getting better and better at it. Woo hoo!