Zipped Lips
You know the old saying … if you don’t have anything good to say, say nothing at all.
I’ve lived by that adage since my last post.
All I have to say now is that I’ll be delighted when my outer reality lines up with my inner one.
Tim and I have found acreage on the Southern Oregon coast that we know has our name on it. I can see us sitting on the deck of a house perched on the side of a hill looking out at the Pacific Ocean. We’ve spent many hours the last couple weeks talking about what we’ll do with that property and what our life will be like there.
From time to time, I’m tempted to write about all the yuck that has gone in the last couple weeks; but I’ve zipped my lips, and I refuse to say a word about it.
A couple weeks ago, a reader shared that she can’t manifest things now because she once found herself in such a place of pure joy and knowing about something she wanted that she knew it was hers and yet it never came. She said that now when she tries to focus in joy on feeling like she has what she wants, she’s reminded of this past failure and others like it.
I understand what she’s saying. This is the place I’ve been in for a long time. I’ve had that extended period of pure joyful knowing, that sensation of yes, I have it, so it’s mine. And then I’ve watched the exact opposite come into my life.
And it’s happening to me now.
What to do about it?
I think the answer is this simple: say nothing and do nothing. Stay in the place of knowing and return to it if it slips away. Look forward instead of behind.
Am I making it too simple? I’d love to get your feedback on this because I have no grand results to “prove” that I’m on the right track.
But I’m staying on the track anyway. While most of the country is baking in unusual heat, we’ve been enjoying cool ocean breezes and refreshing misty fog. I’m basking in how much I appreciate that. And while I bask, I’m going to let you write the blog. 
What do you have to say about the reader’s comment?
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Photo by notsogoodphotography and dawgbite77 on Flickr.
Tags: Alignment, joyful knowing, manifesting, zipped lips
July 13th, 2010 at 9:11 pm
Your situation might mean that a tricky other dimension’s entity has been playing with you. The New Age manifesting your dreams movement is often propelled by such entities, who at first let you create incredible things, only to dump you later on into a very challenging situation, often leading into a suicidal attitude.
People not knowing whom they are dealing with take New Age stuff very seriously and then get burnt. There are good things in the New Age, but in many cases it was taken over by rather disturbing entities.
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July 13th, 2010 at 9:18 pm
An interesting perspective. Thanks for your comment, Ben. I have no knowledge or understanding of these tricky entities, so I can’t respond intelligently. Anyone else want to put their two cents in on this one?
July 14th, 2010 at 7:21 am
Ande,
Trust, at least for me seems to be a very hard thing. The more I trust and the more that My God comes through for me the more its easier to trust but for some reason its still difficult. Just like the children of Israel in the bible, God comes through for them over and over again and they still have a hard time trusting. I dont know why that is but it seems to be the case. The reason I mention this is that this whole thing, LOA, inner /outer manifestation, this and that, its all about trust. I dont know your exact situation, I have read here and there but dont know all the intimate details and dont know the relationship with the Universe and you so I can only say what was my story. I had to totally give up. I mean, not partially and then check to see how things were going, I mean, I was ready for the Universe to take everything and just clean house and start over. That is when things turned around for me. That is when I stopped checking between inner and outer manifestations. I still find myself doing that from time to time but I just remind myself that God loves me and to get back into alignment.
You talk about your inner reality lining up with your outer reality. In my opinion, if you have that picture, or wording, then there is no letting go, there is still keeping score and doing something in order to have something done and that is allowing something to happen in order to make it happen and you know how to finish that sentence. It aint going to happen..
The goal is alignment for alignment’s sake, not manifestation. That is a law of the universe just like gravity and if we are aligning and then checking inner and out realities, then its not for alignments sake. Now, in the same sentence, I really feel for you because you are in a place where you seem to need manifestation more than ever. Its just that even in these situations, the more desperate we are to manifest, and to check realities, it just ends up putting all that energy into aligning with desperate scarcity and you end up getting more of that instead.
LOA is not like some rich uncle or Tim’s father that has the wherewithall to help but has to be appeased. You have to say the right things and put on the right face. You cant manipulate LOA like the Secret and all the other LOA guru’s say you can. The only thing that comes out of that is that their sales for books and tapes and dvd’s goes up. You had mentioned, A couple weeks ago, a reader shared that she can’t manifest things now because she once found herself in such a place of pure joy and knowing about something she wanted that she knew it was hers and yet it never came. She said that now when she tries to focus in joy on feeling like she has what she wants, she’s reminded of this past failure and others like it. (“She cant manifest things”….)yes, that’s true, she CANNOT manifest things. Maybe that is the lesson that the Universe was trying to teach her and the Universe did a good job. We cant manifest things. We just align and then the Universe, (Almightly God of the Bible in my wording) does what he wills and brings this or that for His purpose. (which is pure love by the way). You wrote that she is reminded of past failures. What failures. Doesn’t Ole Abe say there is no failure. Isn’t me having 45 days left of money in the bank a failure but its the best thing that ever happened to me. Not just saying that. Failure means that someone is counting and checking and not in alignment. Remember, the LOA is always at work. If were counting and checking, it will give us more reasons to count and check. You also mention that she said, “It never came”. Who says? Maybe the Universe wanted her to wait another two weeks? maybe the universe wanted more than ever to give her the desire of her heart but he couldn’t because it would teach her that manifesting in order to manifest wasn’t the way it works. Maybe the Universe wanted something much much better for her and she was focusing on something lesser? Is she the Universe or is the Universe the Universe?
Ande, I guess in all this, my whole thing is leave it up to the Universe as best you can. Realize that checking is only a sign that you’re not in alignment. You have your health, your husband, and you live in a great place and you’re incredibly intelligent. Lots to be thankful for. Just let go and let the chips fall where they may. Easier said than done but I think that in 2-3 years from now you will look back and see that these tough days were your fondest. Just keep reaching for relief and more relief everyday. One day at a time. I know that that is the slogan of AA but its really true. Tomorrow has enough anxiety of its own, just focus on being grateful for today and what is before you to do.
July 14th, 2010 at 11:57 am
Thanks for the great input on this, Greg. I didn’t mean to imply that I’m all tense and upset about my life right now. I’m not. It is what it is. I didn’t quite get across what I was saying. Given that I’ve taken on writing this blog, as a way of writing through my process, I can talk about how I’m finding ways to feel good (which I’ve done) and what’s going on (which I don’t want to do unless it’s positive). I admit I have a desire, that for the purposes of this blog, I have something fun to report. That’s where I was coming from. And you’re right–waiting for that something fun keeps it from happening.
July 14th, 2010 at 12:28 pm
I have always found that it is when I have completely forgotten about something or moved onto something else that my original desire manifests.
I think this is showing me that whenever I have a desire that I keep in my mind I am offering resistance by noticing that it isn’t here yet.
No matter how hard I try I can’t help but notice that it isn’t here. But as Abraham Hicks says, trying is always upstream !
I have something that I have been wanting to manifest for three years now. I know it’s possible because I have done it before (more than once) and I also know that I have to truly put it out of my mind before it will come, so I declare right here and now that it is my intention to move onto other things and enjoy my life as it is now.
Wow I feel better just for writing that. Thanks for the opportunity.
July 14th, 2010 at 12:36 pm
Great example of listening to your own guidance when you said: “I think the answer is this simple: say nothing and do nothing. Stay in the place of knowing and return to it if it slips away. Look forward instead of behind.”
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July 14th, 2010 at 12:50 pm
Thanks for sharing that story, Susan, and for sharing your intention to let it go and enjoy life as it is now. I’m right with you on that!
July 14th, 2010 at 12:50 pm
Thanks, Lauri.
July 14th, 2010 at 3:06 pm
When we desire something, believing that we don’t have it, the foundation of that desire is lack, and this “lack” belief simply perpetuates the lack we’re trying to get rid of. But when we desire, knowing that we already are or have that which we desire, the foundation of this desire is fullness, completeness, wholeness. It’s a desire to express rather than a desire to possess. We already are that which we desire to bring into manifestation. It’s easy then to let go of checking for results because the manifestation is assured. Checking for results perpetuates the belief that we don’t have it which, in turn, generates more “not having.” Actually, results don’t matter because we already are what we desire to be and we simply want to experience the joy of expressing it. So what do we do while we wait for this particular desire to begin expressing through us? We enjoy expressing in the present moment, whatever that moment is offering us. That’s one theory.
Here’s another: Suffering and sorrow ALWAYS follow pure joy and happiness when we look outside of ourselves for things to make us happy instead of recognizing the happiness, joy, peace, bliss, and ecstacy that already and always exist within us. When we realize that a peace that passes all understanding (i.e., the mind can’t understand it) is available right now and that who we REALLY are is that peace, then we don’t need things to make us happy because we already are, if we can only become aware of it. We can certainly enjoy things, but things are impermanent. They are born, they live for a while, and then they die. This peace, on the other hand, is changeless, immortal, indestructable. We’re not aware of who we really are because we believe we are the mind, its thoughts, and external reality. But we are in fact consciousness (pure awareness, Presence, Being), the Source out of which all manifested reality is born and returns to. Things – as expressions of consciousness – come and go, including our bodies when we die, but this consciousness – which we can become aware of as ourselves – never dies.
Can these two points of view be reconciled? And who is doing all this desiring?
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July 14th, 2010 at 5:49 pm
Just go for relief…..if there is relief in “zipped lips” then keep on going. You know this stuff Ande and we are blessed that you remind us as well.
July 14th, 2010 at 6:19 pm
Thanks, Jan. Yep, that’s exactly what I was going for … relief.
July 14th, 2010 at 6:20 pm
I agree, I agree, Patrice. Knowing ….. practicing. Bit of a gulf between the two but working to bridge it.
July 15th, 2010 at 9:38 am
This just hit my mailbox:
On Manifesting – Make Peace with What Is, AS IT IS
Questioner: I recognize that part of me that is in the dealership already – in that dream – and that’s a really happy guy. And I try to talk to him. But how do I feel that satisfaction?
Abraham: When you are in the Vortex, looking at a manifestation not yet fulfilled, it feels good. When you are out of the Vortex looking at a manifestation not yet fulfilled, it feels bad.
Being in the Vortex, in alignment with your full view and with your full Source, allows you to make peace with what is, AS IT IS. So, frustration with what is keeps you out of the Vortex. Frustration with what is won’t let what you want manifest. Making peace with it as it is – in other words, you have to make peace with the absence of the dealership before the dealership can exist.
But we’ve never known anybody who could make peace with the absence of something wanted. So you have to be so involved vibrationally with the full presence of it that its manifestation doesn’t look like absence to you because you are so real time in the vibration of it.
It’s the difference between the manifestation being now reality or the Vortex being now reality. And when you step into the Vortex and you hang around there more often so that this is your now reality, you just feel it so completely that the manifestation and where it is doesn’t matter because it’s not current anyway. It’s old news. So the absence of the dealership is old news. The presence of the dealership is the new news and so the satisfaction is within you. So the disallowance stops and now it has to manifest.
Abraham – Philadelphia, 5-27-10, Disc 3
July 15th, 2010 at 10:55 am
Thanks for sharing this, Lauri!
July 15th, 2010 at 12:28 pm
Agree entirely with Greg T – ultimately this journey is about feeling the bliss, not getting the stuff. When you ‘get’ that, the stuff becomes un/less important, and you have no resistance so it can come in easily…ironic. I dip in and out of the bliss/want stuff thing! Lol – I am human, what can I say?! I think that’s so sad that someone felt that joy, and then associated it with ‘failure’ – that is what makes me cross about a lot of the teachings of this stuff. The JOY is what it’s all about. We want stuff cos we think it will make us feel good – if you get the feeling good thing, you have 98% of what you wanted – where is the ‘failure’ in that?
Ande I understand that you only want to blog when you have ‘something good’ to say, but I miss your posts! xx
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July 15th, 2010 at 12:46 pm
Oh, wow, is this timely, Ande! But first, congratulations on finding your dream property — I know the area (somewhat) and can almost smell the sea. I got a wholloping great (and deserved!) speeding ticket once from a really cute cop in Port Orford, but enough of that !
Let’s talk drains, okay? A couple of weeks ago my kitchen sink was getting v-e-r-y s-l-o-w to drain. It wasn’t a fast block, just a gradual build-up of sludge & gunk that over time slowed things to a geriatric trickle. I dumped (a lot!) of baking soda and vinegar down the thing and after much bubbling & gurgling & rumbling there was a huge WHOOSH and the water started to drain out so vigorously it nearly sucked the air out of the kitchen.
It occurred to me I have the same slow flow in my LOA energy. Sure, there’s a trickle of manifesting, but the big WHOOSH I’d really like just isn’t there. So far. It also occurs to me that part of the reason for that is the spiritual gunk & sludge that’s built up over my lifetime.
One instance: I was raised to believe that you NEVER asked for what you wanted: it was bad manners, and I was taught shame about “wanting” very early. Simple example: if you were out for dinner, you never, ever asked for seconds. You just sat there & hoped your hostess would offer you more. If she did, odds were good my mother would say, “you’ve already had enough”, or “you don’t need that”, and I’d get scolded after we got home for embarrassing her by being greedy. (Ah, yes, the delighted of the Very British Child Raising Techniques!)
When I was very young, my mother used to take me when she visited a family friend. This woman would put out a plate of cake or cookies — one for each of us, plus one extra. I’d sit there (silent, because children didn’t speak unless spoken to) & eyeball that cookie or slice of cake, hoping it would levitate its way magically to my plate. One day, I looked up from the cake to see my hostess watching me with a tiny smile on her face. It was not a nice smile. It was the smile of the bully. Her eyes said “I know you want that cake, but you’re not getting it”, and to this very day (50-some years later) I can clearly recall my deep shame at having my “wanting” witnessed.
Am I surprised, then, that I have trouble asking the Universe for the things I want? Hell, no. Intellectually, I know my shame is false. I know that there is (and was) nothing wrong with a 5 y/o child wanting a piece of cake, nor a 50-plus y/o woman wanting the things she wants. I know (with that same intellect) that the problem & shame was NOT with me (or with my mother, who was just a product of her own upbringing), but with a grown woman who got her jollies by bullying a child & a society that has made “wanting” a (shameful) sign of greed & dissatisfaction.
But my intellect is not in charge of my manifesting abilities — my emotional self is, and that emotional self still, at times, feels that shame and how it felt to be scolded for “wanting” and “asking”. Until I can release that shame (& a lot of other sludge & gunk that’s collected over the years from a variety of sources), my “flow” is going to be constricted.
So (there is a point to this long post, believe it or not !), for myself, just ignoring the “not happening” stuff isn’t really going to work the magic I need to get that flow to WHOOSH. I need the “trickle” to point out to me where I still have work to do releasing the gunk. I don’t dwell/complain/talk endlessly about it, but I do acknowledge it. I have a couple of trusted friends I talk with, because often it takes someone else’s perspective to see what the blockage is all about. I’ve been looking at it so long I think it’s part of my natural inner landscape; it takes someone asking me “what on earth is THAT about” to make me see the gremlins.
I, too, have a couple of huge “wants” I have trouble working on because they give rise to the “oh, why bother, it’ll never work because it’s never worked on big stuff before” crap. What helps is reminding myself that I am part of the living Universe from which all things manifest, so I have only to trust that I can do it to have it happen. That fabulous stuff happens daily all around me. That I wasn’t born knowing how to drive a car, write haiku or solve differential equations, but I can do those things now without even thinking hard, and in the same way I learned those skills, I am learning to manifest, getting better at it daily. That perhaps — just perhaps — all I have to do is ALLOW myself to manifest my dreams.
Getting to the point where I truly believe that the Universe is not something separate that deigns to give me the things I desire — or withholds them for some arbitrary reason of its own, like some mean-spirited parental figure — has been a massive step for me. I truly do believe that the key to allowing, or not allowing, comes from MYSELF. And that it’s just a skill, like any other, one I have to work at improving. I remember there were days when I was learning to drive (especially on a stick shift) that I was so frustrated I was ready to just give up. But I didn’t. And now I drive without a second thought. I’m working on getting my manifesting skills to that level .
So I say we all go back to gently aligning our energy flow with those Big Dreams, persevering, believing, trusting we can indeed do it. So I failed yesterday. So what. I have a quote of Jan Lundy’s on my fridge, and I repeat it to myself every single day: “I Can Create My Life Anew Each Day”. How can we lose with the power of the very Universe — the Universe that makes stars and stones and cats and snowflakes — at our fingertips?
July 15th, 2010 at 12:46 pm
Lots of good, thought-provoking comments here. And the zipped lips picture — cute!
I’m totally on board with the Abe quote that Lauri shared. I have lots of desires, and I have learned to get into the Vortex and live them there. Just now, in fact, I was organizing things in my floor-to ceiling built-in white bookcases, and I was picking out an area rug to go with my new wooden floors. And I was sitting dreamily on my cushioned window seats, watching it rain.
I have learned to take such pleasure in my fantasies that it ALMOST doesn’t matter that I don’t have these things yet. I savor them in advance, just as you and Tim are savoring that Oregon property.
As Abraham reminds us, the manifestation is not the main event; it’s the good feeling we get from thinking about the manifestation and thus, ironically, we move ever closer to it.
I’d still love to see you blog in as much detail as feels good about your ideal life, but I totally understand that has to beckon you first.
Thanks, Ande, for all the ways in which you take thought foward.
July 15th, 2010 at 3:52 pm
Hey…I feel better already! If reality resides between the ears…it’s good to be drawn back there often. So easy to stumble around in the muck and mire and forget what a powerful potential we are. Meditation is powerful but the doing is so evasive.
It always amazes me how that universal energy zips and zaps across space and time as we live our lives. Through a photo, a paragraph, a voice…something happens…and folks connect.
Enjoy your place by the sea!
July 15th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
Thanks, Donna. It’s nice to be missed.
I agree with the bliss vs. stuff thing, and I also agree that there is no failure in feeling joy, for sure.
July 15th, 2010 at 5:52 pm
Thanks, Karen. I love the sound of your bookcases and area rug and the cushioned window seats and the rain.
July 15th, 2010 at 6:11 pm
Thank you for sharing this story, Susann. Great drain analogy. Yes, allowing is a skill. And yes, we do create anew each day.
July 15th, 2010 at 6:11 pm
Thanks, Rick.
July 18th, 2010 at 11:33 am
This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says:
“In repentance and rest is your salvation,
in quietness and trust is your strength,
Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you;
he rises to show you compassion.
For the LORD is a God of justice.
Blessed are all who wait for him!