The Secret Is Wags

Many years ago, I dated a man who was chronically late.  And I don’t mean just a little late.  He lived in Seattle, and when he’d come to my home for a visit, he usually arrived one to two hours later than he said he would.

I wasn’t all that pleased about this, and I told him so.  I was especially annoyed when he offered up excuses like, “I had to clean my vegetable bin before I left.”

In response to my displeasure, my soon to be ex-boyfriend, gave me the book, Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson.  Over 100 weeks on the bestseller’s list, this little volume was full of great, down-to-earth advice on how to let go of the little stresses of life, but it didn’t make me feel any better about my boyfriend’s tardiness.

The message I got from the book and from my boyfriend was, “Don’t do anything about the little annoyances of life. The small stuff doesn’t matter.”

In some respects, this is a good message, one that helps with alignment.  Certainly, complaining and noticing all the little things that are “wrong” in the world don’t activate a vibration that draws wonderful experiences into our lives.  But making ourselves be okay with all the little stuff that we don’t like isn’t the way to go about aligning.  It’s the smiley face vs. the rodeo clown.  Trying to convince yourself that you feel good about something you don’t feel good about is a waste of time.

Abraham-Hicks say “It’s not big things that are making the big differences in your life.  It’s this series of little things.  It’s your day to day response to what’s going on.  It’s those day to day thoughts that you think that you want to start shifting.”

In other words, what we need to be paying attention to, what matters, isn’t the big life issues like money or finding a life partner or healing a chronic illness.  What truly matters is all the small stuff.

Small Stuff Thoughts

When we’re learning to use our emotional guidance system, we tend to pay attention to the big negative thoughts.  We notice when we get really angry about a big issue or we’re deeply sad about a chronic problem.  While of course we need to find relief on these subjects, these aren’t the subjects that matter the most.

My husband, Tim, is far better at aligning about the big stuff than I am.  He’s utterly secure about money even though our physical reality doesn’t match that security.  He has no major health issues.  He has the life partner he wants (lucky me).  He’s cool.

When it comes to the little stuff, though, Tim used to get out of alignment all the time.  So did I.  We noticed and became annoyed at things we saw on TV or things people said or little mistakes we made or things breaking.

Because Tim was in alignment about the big stuff, he wasn’t concerned about this misalignment over little stuff.  But I kept repeating something I’d heard Abraham say:  “When you get out of alignment over anything, you’re out of alignment over everything.” I knew the small stuff mattered.  Tim began to agree.

Over time, Tim and I have gotten really good at shifting our “small stuff thoughts.”  Little annoyances have become contrast that helps define a clearer vision of what we want.  Inconveniences now hold positive aspects that serve us.  Judgment has given way to appreciation. Impatience has morphed into acceptance.

From the moment we get up in the morning until we fall asleep at night, we put out a vibrational frequency.  That frequency is usually in response to what is, what we’re encountering as the day unfolds.

We don’t get up in the morning and have A FREQUENCY that’s the response to the DAY.  We get up and have a whole series of little frequency shifts that are the response to the moments in our day.  The way to create a vibrational frequency that allows law of attraction to bring good experiences our way isn’t to get up and decide we’re going to feel great about money or health or love or whatever.  The way to find that vibrational match is to get up and decide we’re going to find reasons to feel good about every little aspect of the day.

As Abraham-Hicks say, “If you had one goal, and that was to feel good, you would never again need to hear another word from anyone. You would live successfully and happily and in a way of fulfilling your life’s purpose ever after.”

Feeling Good Is A Lot of Little Things

In order to feel good, you must understand that the small stuff matters.

Feeling good is

• delighting in the hummingbird that flits from bush to bush in your hard.
• savoring the warm, smooth feel of your pet’s fur.
• melting into your friend’s hug.
• being grateful for the clarification on what you want your new car to have when your old car has mechanical problems.
• looking at your slender wrists instead of your big hips when you see your reflection.
• being grateful that your man loves you when you find his toenail clippings on the floor.
• reminding yourself that your body is smarter than you are, and it can process that candy bar just fine, thank you, if you don’t bring all your old vibrations about junk food into the mix.
• enjoying cleaning house because you have a house to clean.
• exulting in finding a penny.
• loving the rain because rain nourishes the plants.

I could go on, but I know you get it.

Vibrational alignment happens in the small stuff.

If you’re trying to visualize and affirm your way to alignment on some big issue, that’s fine, but remember what truly matters.  True alignment is linking one improved thought to another to another, on one little subject then another and another.

When you understand that the small stuff matters, you can link your way to a vibrational alignment, one simple thought at a time.

Photo by John-Morgan on Flickr.

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