Power Chatter—Part Five: Speak In Positive Aspects
There’s a restaurant north of where Tim and I live called The Ocean Crest. It’s an awesome place—incredible food, romantic atmosphere, attentive service, and a stunning view of the ocean through the veils of graceful hemlock tree branches. We love it, and we go there on special occasions whenever we have the financial means to do so.
We recently mentioned how much we love the place to a couple we know (I’ll call them Jack and Jill). Jill said, “Oh, we went there once. We think it’s highly overrated. The service was so slow.”
“My steak wasn’t done right,” Jack said.
“And it’s so expensive,” Jill said.
“The tables are too close together,” Jack said.
Tim and I moved on to another subject.
The fact is that Jack and Jill make some valid points. The service at The Ocean Crest is quite leisurely. The place is pricey. Once, Tim’s steak wasn’t cooked right. And the tables could be further apart.
So what?
Tim and I don’t talk about those things. We talk about those positive aspects I mentioned at the beginning of this post. And because that’s what we talk about, no matter what happens at that restaurant (slow service, overcooked steaks, etc.), we have an incredible time. We have nothing but delightful memories of our meals there.
We also have delightful memories of every restaurant we eat at. We’ve never had a bad restaurant experience.
This other couple has rarely had a good restaurant experience. One of their favorite topics is the lousy food, service, or atmosphere at restaurants. Tim has even asked me, “Why do they go out?”
This same couple tends to get bad service in stores and other businesses too. Tim and I rarely get bad service.
The other day, this couple was telling us about some surly service they got at a nearby home improvement store. Before they could go on about it, Tim said, “Whenever I get an unhelpful clerk, I ask them if they’re having a good day.”
“And I compliment them,” I said.
Tim and I never let the seeds of lousy service turn into a full-blown problem because we speak in positive aspects to everyone we deal with.
If a woman is being rude, I find something I like about her and compliment her on it. If someone is ignoring us, we start up a conversation, asking the person questions about him or herself (people LOVE to talk about themselves).
We look for things to say that make people feel good. And when we make people feel good, they make us feel good.
Some of our friends like to go on rampages of complaints about phone service—customer service people don’t speak decent English; they don’t have the right answers; they don’t listen … blah, blah, blah.
Tim and I don’t have these problems either. Usually, by the time we get off the phone, we’re on a first name basis with the person we’re talking to and we’ve found out where the person is, how the weather is, and we usually know whether or not the person is married and has kids or pets. We talk our way into great service almost 100 percent of the time.
Many students of law of attraction have a tendency to spend time tuning their vibration to attract wonderful things into their lives—visualizing and writing out positive aspects of their current situation, but they then forget to LIVE from this perspective all the time, in all of the little dealings and errands, in all of the minor, in passing conversations.
Abraham-Hicks say, “Every time you say, ‘I appreciate that. I really like that. I applaud that. I acknowledge the value in that.’ Every time you do that, you spend some of your Energy, and it is the spending of the Energy that creates a vacuum, so to speak, or an attraction, so to speak, that draws more and more and more and more.”
Every conversation you have, whether it’s with your spouse or with the clerk at the local convenience store, is an opportunity to raise your vibration and get in the Vortex. When you speak in positive aspects, you’re using ordinary conversation to create extraordinary experiences because the law of attraction will match that positive energy. Speaking in positive aspects aligns you with the kind of experiences you want to have.
Every compliment you give out draws a compliment to you. Every bit of interest you show to someone else will come back in someone’s interest in you.
Make people feel good, and you will feel good.
Nothing you encounter in the business world is worth complaining about. Nothing.
Every negative experience can be turned by speaking in positive aspects.
(If you missed them, be sure to read the first four parts of Power Chatter: Part 1—Talk On The Dark Side; Part 2—Mundane, Not; Part 3—Talk It Up, and Part 4—Talking Tone.)
Photo by Weglet on Flickr.
Tags: customer service, Law of Attraction, positive aspects, The Vortex, Vibration
May 17th, 2010 at 12:18 pm
I’m realizing how very important focusing on positive aspects in conversation with people really is, now that I know what it feels like to be on the receiving in of my own negative energy output.
It is so clear to me now that the energy we put out – whether in thought, speech or action – is the energy we get back, and it usually comes back multiplied. If we are all one Source Energy (at the quantum level and at the level of the “Formless” (an Eckhart Tolle term)), then everything we give to one another we are giving to ourselves. That’s why forgiveness is so powerful. So do unto others as you would have them do unto you because whatever you do will come back to either haunt you or bless you.
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May 17th, 2010 at 3:06 pm
I DO believe that every negative experience CAN be turned by speaking in the positive. It really does work.
May 17th, 2010 at 5:23 pm
Absolutely, Patrice–formless and connected indeed. That’s the zero point field I’ve written about on this blog. And that’s why the negativity or positivity comes back to us. Well put!
May 17th, 2010 at 7:59 pm
I guess we all encounter a “Jack & Jill” from time-to-time. Knowing what we know, it’s jarring — sometimes almost humorous — what a negative momentum they have going. Of course, Abraham says there has to be a little of that in our vibration to even encounter someone who’s got that negative vibe going.
I like to pre-pave positive experiences in every restaurant or store while I’m getting out of the car and walking across the parking lot (when I remember!)
I don’t know that we exactly get back what we give (a compliment, people’s interest, etc.) but I do know we get what we want, providing we’re vibrating in a fairly feel-good place. And often that is, as you point out, what we’re giving.
Thanks for the lovely reminder, and keep right on enjoying the heck out of The Ocean Crest!
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May 17th, 2010 at 8:15 pm
You’re so right, Karen, that those sorts of people vibrate right out of our experience–I’m working on that.
You’re right that we may not get back exactly what we give–more like the vibrational equivalent of compliments and interest.
I need to remember to prepave more often. I do it sometimes but not consistently. Thank YOU for that reminder.
May 18th, 2010 at 7:39 am
Ande,
Great Post as always. This post makes me think about all the people in my life who are now trying to put fear into me. You know my story how back in March I decided to become aware of what was making me powerless and what I was fearful of. Well, I dont know what it is but now I have become incredibly aware of people who are trying to put fear into my life at every corner. I dont know what it is. Even talking to someone about taking vitamins and up comes, “you better not do that, you will experience such and such, or this or that will happen, all bad.
Then at the gym, well, if you dont work out this way then such and such will happen. Then even my next store neighbor is giving us advice on gardening in our back yard because they can see all our plants flourishing and thriving and they dont seem to have any doing that but up comes the warning, well, you better do this and better do that or such and such will happen and YOU DONT WANT THAT… Its like I have on X-ray glasses or something that can make me see something that I didnt see before.
It just seems like EVERYONE is trying to manipulate my behavior in one way or another through fear, or as we say in the Sales area, fear of loss buying motive. According to the Sales Sages, there are 6 motives for buying. All buying decisions come down to these five motives. Desire for gain, fear of loss, comfort and convenience, security and protection, pride of ownership and satisfaction of emotion. Seems like everyone I meet is trying to motivate me with Fear of Loss. I am completely on “Desire to be free”. I guess when you have been affected by Fear of Loss for approx 47 years and you finally break free and wake up, you become sensitive to the tactics of others using it on you.
May 18th, 2010 at 10:34 am
Thank you SO much, Ande!! This is a beautiful post.
“When you speak in positive aspects, you’re using ordinary conversation to create extraordinary experiences because the law of attraction will match that positive energy.”
It’s THAT easy, eh?
May 18th, 2010 at 10:40 am
Thanks, Greg! You’re experiencing something I’ve noticed as well for a couple years. I think when I really make the decision to live from your personal power, from the place of “I have it and all is well” the contrast between that and what the “real world” becomes stark and glaring. We live in a world of “don’t do” and “beware”. What I’m starting to find though, is the more I ignore all of that, the more I’m encountering people like you and Karen and all the wonderful readers of this blog who I’ve “met” through comments or e-mail, who speak in terms of wants and isn’t it wonderful. Many years ago, my therapist taught me to create a virtual suit of armor that was supposed to “protect” me from negativity. It didn’t work all that well, and now I realize because it was a form of “pushing against.” Now I see myself as this fluid energy that’s permeable and when people share warnings with me, the negativity goes right through me. Much of it I honestly can’t even remember an hour later. It’s like I hear it, but I don’t hear it.
May 18th, 2010 at 10:42 am
Thanks, Parul. In a nutshell, it is that easy … when we remember to do it consistently.