The Secret Is Wags

On Mother’s Day, Tim told me to pick whatever I wanted for dinner and he’d fix it.  I decided I was in the mood for an indoor picnic.  I wanted a sandwich, coleslaw, and sour cream and onion flavored Tim’s Cascade potato chips.  (No one would accuse me of being unspecific about my desires.) I haven’t had potato chips in a long time—we don’t spend money on junk food, but that’s what I wanted.

Tim went to the store.  He came home with Lay’s Baked potato chips.  I looked at them and curled my lip.  “What are these?”

“It’s all they had.”

“They didn’t have Tim’s?”

“Not in sour cream and onion flavor.  Just in jalapeno and plain.”

“No other chips?”

“Regular Lays, and I know you think those are too thin.”

“Nothing else?”

“You don’t like the baked?”

“It’s diet food.”  I probably whined a little when I said that.  I wanted real potato chips, thick and crunchy, greasy and salty.  “I’d rather have regular Lay’s than these baked ones,” I told Tim.

He said he’d take them back.  (The one grocery store in our town is three minutes from our house.)

“I’ll go with you,” I said. “I’ll pick out my own chips.”

“No! I’ll take care of it.”

“But I want to go.”

“No.  Let me do this for you.”

“But I want to go.”

I’ll spare you the next few minutes of our ridiculous conversation.  Tim was determined to “fix” his “mistake.”  I was just as determined to go to the store to pick out my own chips.

And if you’re wondering what all this chips nonsense has to do with the law of attraction, just give me a couple more minutes.  I’ll get to my point.

I couldn’t tell you why the chips mattered to me, but they did.  I wasn’t in any way upset with Tim.  He seemed to think he’d let me down somehow.

I finally told him I was going to the store, and I suggested that getting out of alignment over something as silly as potato chips was not at all wise.  I told him he was getting far too disturbed over it.  He didn’t make a mistake.  He just didn’t get what I wanted, which is no big deal.

He allowed that I was right, and we headed to the store.  When we got there, he went to return the chips, and I walked down the chip aisle.  I stopped in front of the Tim’s Cascade section.  I saw the jalapeno and plain flavors and kept looking.  I spotted vinegar flavored.  Well, I’m getting warmer, I thought.  I like those too.  I had told Tim that was my second choice.  Why hadn’t he gotten those?

Buoyed by my discovery, I wondered what else he might have missed.  I leaned a little to the left and looked behind a cardboard freestanding display case.  Next to the vinegar chips was a whole row of Tim’s Cascade sour cream and onion flavored chips.  Just what I wanted!

I plucked them from the shelf and headed up the aisle.  Tim came toward me.  He spotted the bag of chips in my hand. “Where’d you get those?”

I pointed.

He walked around the freestanding display and looked behind it.  “I didn’t see those.”

Obviously.

“It’s boy vision vs. girl vision,” I teased him.

Ladies, I’m sure you’ve had experience with a man looking for some object in a cabinet or drawer and saying, “It’s not here,” only to go look yourself and find said object sitting in plain sight.  Men seem to have little invisible blinders that make it difficult for them to find things.

But then, that’s my vibrational alignment on the subject, and besides, I digress.

So what does my quest for just right chips have to do with law of attraction?

This little chips saga has four important law of attraction lessons in it:

You Can’t Create Another’s Reality

Many well-meaning people try to “help” others by “fixing” their problems.  They want to “make things right” for other people.  They want to save addicts and convert people to this or that.

Tim wanted to get me my perfect chip experience. Sweet as he is, doing things for me is part of his reality.  But satisfying my needs and desires isn’t something he can do.  My needs or desires are mine to align with, not his to provide.

A lot of relationships fall apart because people don’t understand this concept.  Our society has this myth that our lover or spouse should know what we want and provide it.  Men especially are supposed to do this for women.  But it’s an impossible task.  They’ll never get it right, and we women will never be satisfied by their efforts.

We’re each responsible for our own needs.  We’re each responsible for our own chips.

When You Get Out of Alignment On One Thing, You’re Out of Alignment On Everything

For some odd reason, getting me the right chips became very important to Tim once I said the baked ones weren’t what I wanted.  Who knows what thoughts were going through his head?  I do know that, at times, he does get frustrated by our “what is” reality.  He wants to be able to buy me whatever he wants to buy me.  He wants to bring me flowers and gifts.  My guess is that if a bag of chips was all he could do for me, he wanted to at least do that “right,” and when he didn’t, it touched a nerve that went much deeper than chips.

His upset, however, was total misalignment.  In fact, if his frustration preceded the chip errand, it might have created the vibrational misalignment with finding the right chips.

In the last few months, I have come to understand that it’s tough enough to find alignment on the big stuff.  Why would you want to throw alignment away on little stuff?

Creating the life you want is too important to mess it up with petty annoyances or disappointments.  Letting yourself get upset about little things is like poking a tiny hole in your gas tank.  It’s not all that noticeable at first, but over time, it’s going to make a profound impact on your ability to get where you want to go.

I refuse to get rattled by anything other than major money issues and major bodily harm.  And I want to get to a place where even those things don’t rattle me.

Once Tim realized what he was doing, he quickly shifted his thoughts and got back in alignment.

Getting Warm Is Worth Being Excited About

We have a tendency to ignore the little signs that show we’re heading toward what we want.  We win $10 with a lottery ticket and treat it like it’s a ho hum thing because what we want is the big jackpot.  But any movement in the direction of our desires is something to celebrate.  When we get happy about progress, we lock on even stronger to what we truly want.  Law of attraction matches excitement with more things to be excited about.

When I spotted the vinegar potato chips, I knew I was closer to what I wanted.  That was exciting to me.  I savored the triumph of that.  And right after that increase in vibration, I matched up with what I wanted.

When Your Desire Comes From Pure Delight, Manifestation Is Easy

Like I said, I don’t eat potato chips very often, but when I decided I wanted them, my desire for them was pure, almost childlike joy.  I had no feelings of guilt.  I didn’t think about my arteries or my hips or carbs or salt or any of the other chips issues I might have pondered in the past.  I thought only of the crunch and the taste and the fun I’d have eating the chips.

When I went into the store to see what they had, I wasn’t upset that they didn’t have what I wanted.  I was eager to find something that pleased me, and I knew I would.

This happy place was my vibrational alignment with the chips.  It’s why they were so easy for me to spot.  I was on the same frequency as those chips.  We were linked.

The potato chips turned out to be even better than I thought they’d be.  Not only did they taste wonderful but the experience of finding them when Tim said they didn’t exist has created in me a different mindset about money.

For months I’ve been thinking, “I need money to stay afloat.”  Can you say RESISTANCE?

Now I’m thinking about how much fun I’m going to have with my money.  I’ve replaced screaming, grasping need with exuberant expectation.

And thanks to the potato chips saga, I expect to have money in hand very soon.

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Photo by larskjensen at Flickr.

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