The Secret Is Wags

If you’ve been reading this blog for awhile, this post may give you a sense of déjà vu.  Been there, read that.

I’ve muddled around on this subject before, but I find I need to return to it.  This is, after all, a journey, and sometimes you retrace your steps when you’re on a journey.

Yesterday, I wrote about Greg, The Favored Cartographer.  Greg is one of two men who have become a catalyst for some conflicted emotions in me.  My husband, Tim, is the other one.

Is He The Guy or Not?

Greg is focusing his thought in ways that are similar to mine and Tim’s.  Like us, Greg has decided to be the person he wants to become.  He grasped the need to have it before he has it.  He made an “I am the guy” shift:  he became vibrationally the person he wants to be, and the universe is moving circumstances into place to bring him his desires.

I’ve been exhilarated watching the shift taking place in Greg’s life.  I’ve also been a little discouraged.

How is it, I find myself asking, that Greg made this “I am the guy” shift and turned things around in a matter of weeks and my husband, Tim, made his “I am the guy” shift and has yet to have experienced anything like the life he feels like he already has?

I’m baffled.

Of course, I know that my bafflement is also non-alignment.  I know that when I’m looking at the lack of something, I’m not vibrating on a match with what I want.  I know.

But I live with a man who has felt RICH for months and months.  I live with a man who feels like he has everything he wants.  In his mind, Tim is a multi-millionaire.

That is such a big leap for most of us—trying to feel like we have millions when we have pennies.  For Tim, however, it’s nothing.  Being a millionaire is as natural to him as being a dog lover is for me.

For Greg, getting big commission checks is natural.  He IS the man who rakes in the money in his sales work.  It’s who he is.  And he’s begun to live the physical result of that.

Tim, however, isn’t living the physical results yet.  He doesn’t care.

Here’s an example of the way Tim thinks.  Last weekend, we had to have our car jumpstarted when we left our friends’ house at the end of the evening.  Because we’d had problems with electrical systems in the car, we thought the alternator or other electrical issues might need work.  At the moment, we don’t have the money for that.  So on the way home, I was worried about the car.  Tim was quiet.  I asked him what he was thinking.  I expected him to say something about who he was going to call about the car in the morning.

Instead he said, “I was thinking about how great it is to play golf four times a week.  My scores will just keep improving.”

In our “what is” reality, Tim doesn’t play golf at all right now.  He hasn’t played since our finances blew up in August of last year.  But see what he’s doing with his thought?  He isn’t in the “what is” reality.  He’s in his multi-millionaire reality.  He is the guy.

Good for him.

I’m happy to be married to “the guy.”  But I’m the girl who’s shouting, “Show me the money!!!!!!”

Yeah, I know.  It’s not vibrational alignment with what I want.

I’ve been working on being the wife of a multi-millionaire, the bestselling author of the kind of novel I want to write.  Obviously, I haven’t made my own “I am the gal” shift.

Greg – 1 , Tim & Ande – 0

So how do I stop this score keeping?

Tim and I play Scrabble most Sunday afternoons.

He keeps score, and oddly, though he never keeps score of how his virtual reality is doing in relation to his “what is” reality, he cares a lot about scores in games and sports.  Tim likes to give me updates as we play.  I don’t care about them.  They don’t have any relevance to how I’m playing.  I don’t choose one word over the other based on the score.  I go all out to find the best-scoring word on every turn.  I don’t slack off just because I know I’m ahead, and I don’t try harder when I’m behind.

My effort is the same all the way through the game because the fun of the game for me is taking on the challenge of doing the best I can with the letters I have. It doesn’t matter whether Tim is getting incredible scores or not.  They have no impact on what I’m doing with my focus on the letters.

I think this might be a clue to how I can stop keeping score of vibrational alignment results.  If the results had no impact on what I’m doing, why would I care about the score?

Just as I go all out with every one of my Scrabble turns, I need to go all out with staying in the “I am the gal” place—the place where I have the freedom to write the novels I want to write and where my millionaire husband plays golf four times a week.  I need to enjoy “my turns” at finding joy and getting adept at “like it” instead of caring how well I’m doing or Tim is doing in relation to someone else like Greg.

Every time I look at Tim’s mindset in relation to his “what is” reality, I lose my own alignment.  I’m looking at what is instead of what Tim has already become vibrationally.

Abraham-Hicks remind us that we are vibrational beings.  Our physical senses to the contrary, we process our world via our energy vibrations, and our emotions are our vibrational indicators.  “They are the most sophisticated, supreme vibrational indicators,” Abraham-Hicks say. “And what they are indicating is the only thing that ever, ever, ever matters to you: they are indicating your relationship with YOU, which is the only thing that is any of your business.”

In Scrabble, the only thing that’s my business is what I’m going to do with the letters on my tray.  In life, the only thing that’s my business is how I feel in any given moment: do I feel like “the gal?”

I sure don’t when I’m keeping score of what others are doing.

So that’s my work for now—sticking my nose back in my own business.

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